Aptavani 09

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Mahavideh Foundation

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Solution for situations of extreme suspicion
This world exists because of suspicions. The very tree that needs to dry out is the tree people 'water' with suspicions and therefore it thrives even more. Therefore, it is not worth being suspicious in this world.
Do you now get suspicious about anything in this world? How would you feel if from a distance you see your wife sitting on a bench with some other man?
Questioner: Now nothing will happen. Initially I would be affected but then it would be fine. Then I would understand that it is vyavasthit and that it has to do with past karmic ties (roonanubandha).
Dadashri: How shrewd you are! What a tremendous calculation to clear out your karmic account. And you will not become suspicious will you?
Questioner: No Dada.
Dadashri: And these people start getting suspicious even when the wife comes home late. Suspicion is not worth getting into. Nothing is going to happen outside of your karmic account. If your wife comes home late, explain things to her and reason with her but do not become suspicious. Suspicion actually feeds the problem. Yes, you have to caution her, but do not be suspicious. Those who become suspicious miss moksha.
So if you want liberation, if you want to go to moksha, do not become suspicious. Just because you see your wife with another man's arm around her, does that mean you have to drink poison?
Questioner: No, why should I do that? Dadashri: Then what should you do?
Questioner: Act up a little in a dramatic manner. Later, make her understand. If she still continues to do it, then it is vyavasthit.
Dadashri: Yes, that is right. Now you will not have any suspicions about your wife or anyone else in your home, will you? These are all 'files' and there is nothing to become suspicious about: is anything worth being suspicious about? Whatever is the karmic account, whatever the karmic connection, the 'files' will wander accordingly and your goal is to go to moksha.
That is a dangerous disease When doubt (vahem) enters in these matters, it will give you a lot of happiness, will it not?
Questioner: It gnaws away on the inside, like big ants!
Dadashri: Yes, all the waking hours it will eat you alive. It is like the disease of tuberculosis! In fact TB is better; it remains active only for a certain time. So suspicion is like the infection of TB The one in whom suspicion arises, is in the same condition as the one who comes in contact with TB and becomes infected with it. Therefore suspicion does not help in any way. It only causes harm. It should be uprooted the moment it starts, otherwise it will grow into a tree!
Effects of suspicions What does suspicion mean? It is like putting a pound of salt in the milk pudding that is prepared for a large gathering What happens if we do that? The milk will turn rancid. People do not realize the liability of doing this. 'We stay far away from suspicion. 'We' do have thoughts, we have a mind so thoughts are inevitable, but we do not have any suspicions. If ever 'we' were to look at someone with a suspicious eye, his mind will become estranged from 'us' the next day; the next day he will begin to feel different about 'us'
Therefore, do not have suspicions about anyone or anything. You have to be alert (jagrut) but not suspicious towards the other people. Suspicions will destroy you. Whatever