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Dadashri: Yes otherwise, the notebook will eventually fill up resulting in negativity and then it will change the inner vision (drashti) towards the other person. When the other person sees you, he will be able to sense it in the way you look at him. Will the other person not know about the note you have made about him? He will immediately know that you have made a note of something he said to you a while ago. These people may not know how to see anything else but they do know how to look in your eyes about the notes you make. But in our eyes they see vitaragata (the detached state) and immediately realize that Dada is the same as he was. They see vitaragata in four' eyes. Just as you can recognize a man's immoral intent from his eyes or recognize a greedy person from his eyes, similarly you can recognize a vitarag from his eyes. When there is no agitation, fidgety sign in the eyes it means that nothing has been noted within Where there is love, there is no nondha
(intense mental note) The love that arises should be such that it neither increases nor decreases, you need that kind of love. Real love is love that will not decrease for the person who insults you or curses you. The love that increases or decreases is really an infatuation (aasakti). If any love begins to increase or decrease, then it becomes an infatuation (aasakti). In health too, when health goes up or down, it is referred to as disease. When the son comes home from earning good money, he is praised, 'Hey son, you did a great job!' and when he loses money a few years later, the father will say, 'He is crazy. I have told him so many times that I am tired of telling him. It has given me a headache!' This is aasakti! Instead, the opinion that we have in our college (Akram Vignan)' is preferable. It remains with us, forever the same.
Questioner: It is the same between a husband and a
wife. They say, 'I love you. I need you' and then they fight.
Dadashri: That is aasakti. There is no telling where it is and where it will end up. Oho ho! The great lovers! A man with true love will not let go of her until she dies. There cannot be deep mental notes (nondha) where there is love. It is not possible to have both love and a 'mental notebook'. When you make a note of, 'You did this... You did that', there is no love there any more.
'We have so many mahatmas here but 'we' do not make a note of anybody, even when they do distressful things. There is neither an external note nor an internal one. If an inner mental note (nondha) is made then, tension will arise even when there is no cause for it. You will see 'us' tension free, no matter when you see 'us' day or night. And that is why there is no hassle anywhere. Even when our health is not good they all say, 'Dada is smiling.' There is a smile because there is no tension! So do not get involved with anyone's affairs. Tension will arise even if you become concerned about your physical health, 'I have this problem and that problem, will it not?
Questioner: 'Where there is love there is no nondha (intense mental note), 'this is an important statement.
Dadashri: Yes, love that keeps mental notes is not love. The love of this world is one which has mental notes. A woman will make a note of, 'He said this to me today. 'Now how can you call that love? There is no need to make any notes if it is love, otherwise it will become infatuation (attraction-repulsion). Love that increases or decreases is not love. The world will not refrain from making notes. They may not tell you on your face but in their mind they will say, 'he told me off a few days ago.'Would she not keep that on her mind? Therefore, does she not keep a note? The one who does not keep notes has real love. I do not have a notebook, how can
