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'see this in my Gnan too. There is no relationship whatsoever. Relationships are like the birds sitting on a tree. They fly in from all direction; they stay together during the night and claim 'we must be somehow related'. So things continue this way in the name of relationship but when the morning comes, they all fly away in different directions. So there is no such thing as relationships. No one is really related to anyone.
Questioner: The example of the passengers on a train on a long journey is better, Dada.
Dadashri: On the train, one will at least realize that his fellow passenger is suffering a lot, so he will try to help him. He does not dwell on relationships and when his station comes, he gets off.
It is also wrong (asatya) to hang on to the truth (satya). To hang on to the truth's tail (insist on the truth) is in itself untruth (asatya). To become insistent is to ruin everything. People take a beating by hanging on to the tail of the truth, just as they hang on to a donkey's tail. They will take a beating from the kicks but they will not let go of the tail. They will insist 'I will not let go no matter what
Whereas 'we' do not have any grasping of anything (graha) or persistence of insistence (aagraha). There is not the slightest insistence of 'it has to be this way in any matter, not even for a second. Not even for a second will 'we' say. this is right, this is true.' There is not the slightest insistence of even *This Gnan has manifest. If you say, 'that is incorrect', even then there is no insistence on our part. Whatever comes through your vision (drashti) is correct.
If you do not encounter any separation with anyone due to difference of opinion (matbhed) anywhere, then know that You are on the right path. And where there is separation due to differences of opinions, know that your path is not clear yet. You still have to carve your road through the mountains, you will
have to remove big rocks that come your way, otherwise you are bound to crash into them if they are lying in your path. Bring a closure by becoming straight (sarad)
The one who is straight (sarad) will flex and bend according to the truth, will adjust promptly to the truth. Such a one will quickly turn in matters where the 'soul' accepts and agrees, and he will not be insistent there. The one who insists is not sarad.
So do not be rigid, inflexible and insist on anything! It is a grave liability to be persistently insistent (pakkad).
Questioner: Arguments are bound to ensue where there is misunderstanding between two people.
Dadashri: Therefore you have to end the matter there.
Questioner: So if there is a misunderstanding and the other person tells me you are wrong, should I not let go of it?
Dadashri: Yes, you should let go of it. What objection do you have? If you don't the other person will think, 'Why is he talking like that?' I ask you, 'is speaking (speech) not vyavasthit? Is it not vyavasthit that he asks something?' 'We' have all the solutions. Otherwise where is the end in sight? 'We' bring about a resolution quickly.
It is wrong of us to say, 'this person is right and this person is wrong. You just have to believe that the other person is right and you are wrong and just move on. That way the other person will not have any problems either. No one will have a pending 'claim' against you. You can never be free if there are any claims pending against you. The ego after Gnan is lifeless and the
prakruti dissipates Wherever there is the stock of ego (ahamkar no bharelo maal), it is likely to increase. In the mahatmas the ego is
