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So there should be two kinds of mamata. You should have full mamata over your body. And mamata that has spread towards external things should be like this mamata.
"This house is mine, this watch is mine, this ring is mine, all this is extended mamata. But really, they will remove all your jewelry and everything else when you leave (die).
There should be a boundary (limitations) for mamata. Should there not be a boundary for everything? So should there not be a boundary for mamata too?
Questioner: So does that mean one should not have raag-dwesh towards things of extended mamata?
Dadashri: You should be like the insurance agent who does not become affected by any losses. You can have mamata for this body only
So have mamata for only those things that will come with you. Otherwise, is there anything that will no longer be there after one leaves? 'This leg is mine, this arm is mine, this nose is mine, ear is mine, this eye is mine, this finger is mine, all the thirty-two teeth are mine...'- there are many such things in the body. This much mamata is more than enough. Then there is no interference. There is no need for external and extended mamata. People have mistakenly created the extended mamata. It has come about because of a lack of understanding. Otherwise, mamata should not be extended externally.
Questioner: Does that mean mamata should be for only the body?
Dadashri: Only for this body and you should have full mamata for it. You should give it food and drink; there is great happiness in such mamata. But people do not enjoy that happiness and instead they take pleasure of 'This house is mine... that is mine...this is my wife, etc. 'No body is going to be yours! Whatever you believe to be yours will not come
with you. 'You' are permanent. Temporary things will not suit you.
Ultimately when even your own body is not going to be yours, then how can the wife be yours? Is the wife going to be yours? What if you keep having mamata towards the wife and one day she divorces you? There is no such problem with this body, is there?
Questioner: But what is there in this body that merits having unnecessary mamata?
Dadashri: Then what on the outside is worth having more mamata for? So there is nothing that is yours. Whatever is yours, will come with you; that is the principle. And anything that is not yours is not going to. So is it not meaningless to have mamata for anything that is not yours?
Questioner: But how much mamata can there be towards the body?
Dadashri: There are many things in the body. There are thirty-two teeth and a tongue that work the whole day but does not get crushed between the teeth. So it is more than enough if you increase this much mamata towards the body.
Questioner: What is the benefit in keeping this much mamata?
Dadashri: When you keep this much mamata for the body, there is an adjustment for the body. There is arrangement for everything the body needs. Everything is orderly. What the eyes need, what the ears need, what the stomach needs, everything will get what is needed.
Questioner: What if the mamata gets focused exclusively on the body?
Dadashri: When that happens, just relax and go to sleep peacefully! But people do not even sleep peacefully.
