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realize it when it is exposed. It is all filth covered with a 'silk cloth'. It is a betrayal. One does not remember all this and that is why he finds himself in this predicament. And what will a covetous man do? In his intense greed (lalacha), if the woman tells him to lick the pus coming out of a boil on her arm, he will do it! Even dogs would not lick in this way! That is avarice and intense greed (alacha). His ego will not bother him there; it will not arise to question, 'How can I do this? The hell with it, I do not want this. 'Intense greed (lalacha) can kill a person. The rule is that if a person eats a lot of onions, he will not be able to smell onions even if he is sitting next to them. And the person who does not eat them will be able to smell it even if he is sitting three rooms away. Similarly, a covetous person is completely impervious and unaware.
Sex means bestiality! It is a sign of animalistic behavior. Is it a human behavior? Sex should only be for having two or three children. After that, is sex even meant for humans?
Conflicts because of it Questioner: When a person is not successful in his intense greed (lalacha) for sex, does he not start becoming suspicious?
Dadashri: He will do everything when he does not succeed. He will become suspicious and have negative thoughts disguised in many ways. After that, may the Lord have mercy on him! It will give rise to further avarice but on top of that, it will disgrace him. Once it takes control over him, it will disgrace him without fail.
There is absolutely no relation with the 'wife through the mind, body, thoughts or speech and so a man should not behave like he owns her or try to boss her around (do dhanipanu, dominate as a husband). What is considered dhanipanu? It is considered dhanipanu, as long as he maintains a bestial relationship through his mind, speech and body
Questioner: But he exercises his dominance (dhanipanu) and bosses her around only when sex is involved, is that not so?
Dadashri: Bossiness as a husband means to threaten the wife into having sex. But then he will pay the price for it in his next life.
Questioner: What will happen?
Dadashri: It binds vengeance (vair). Is any soul likely to remain suppressed?
When husband and wife have a lot of conflicts, he will say to her, 'Why do you walk around sulking?' She will sulk even more and she will keep that disdain on her mind. She will say to herself, I will take care of him when the time comes. She will not refrain from remembering and avenging her disdain. Every living being will do the same; every living being harbors this inner grudge of vengeance (rees): all it takes is a little prodding and teasing and it will express. No one will remain suppressed by anyone. Each and every soul lives independently and they have no real connections with one another. It is only through illusion that everything appears as 'mine' and 'yours!
Women remain suppressed under societal pressure against their will and they take revenge in their next life. They may even bite back as a snake in the next life. From intense greed (lalacha) to helplessness
and humiliation One woman used to make her husband prostrate in front of her four times before she would even let him touch her. The fool! Instead it would be better for him to jump in the sea and kill himself! For what do you prostrate four times before her?
Questioner: Why does a woman do that? Dadashri: That is one kind of ego. Questioner: But what does she get out of it?
