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Only if he brings forth results, will he benefit, right? If he brings forth a little result, by that I mean if he brings resolution for ten things, he will get the energy to resolve twenty. Then spending the energy for twenty will bring forth the energy of forty. That energy will double again. Then only one will realize that his energy has increased, otherwise all the energy is 'dissolved and wasted.
Until now he has not been in Agna even for a minute. Would people at home be hurt if he was abiding by the Agna? How wonderfully he would win the love of his family by dealing with them with equanimity. But he does not remain in the Agnas; he does not even know what the Agnas are. He knows the Agnas only through the medium of his intellect or words but he does not understand what it really means. Those abiding by the Agnas may have some separation due to differences of opinions (matbhed) but they do not have quarrels. People at home will not get fed up with him.
Questioner: So in practical terms one has to remain as the pure Self, do pratikraman and stay away from that which makes him slip?
Dadashri: Yes, and he should be able to adjust with his family members. 'Settling files with equanimity is the main Agna, is it not? And should he not see the pure Soul in everyone at home? But he does not even think that way; he does not even have this much awareness.
The solution for this is to make a firm decision that you want to remain in Dada's Agnas and then start practicing it from the next day. Then do pratikraman for the times you did not remain in the Agna. Please everyone at home by dealing with them, with equanimity. Despite doing all this, if anyone in the family gets upset, just see that incident and continue 'seeing' it. They are acting that way because of the past karmic account. It is only today that you have made the decision to abide by the Agnas, so
win the family over with love. Then, you will notice that things are beginning to settle down. But you can only believe this if your family members agree that things are changing and settling down for the better. Eventually the family will always be there for the one who has overcome this disastrous kashaya of lalacha.
Then you should not dominate and boss your wife around (dhanipanu). You are not her boss or her owner (dhani), so why behave like one? You are a husband in name only so why behave as an owner (dhani)? There is no problem if you really were her dhani. Would problems not arise if you try to boss her around when you are not even her boss? Therefore, you should not be bossy. When she bosses you around, accept it with a smile and tell yourself, 'Oh ho ho! Even you made me pay up a pending account!' Isn't it good that she is making you pay off your accounts?
There is no problem if you constantly remain in Dada's Agnas. Do pratikraman if you cannot remain in His Agnas. Intense greed (lalacha) for wanting
reverence There is no telling when intense greed (alacha) to be worshipped and revered will sprout within. All one needs is five to seven people. That is all. These five to seven will tell the entire city of Mumbai that a 'Gnani' has come to town; they will even make all the arrangements. They will go to the extent of propping him up, making him presentable, giving him a wig if he is bald!
Alas, one has done only this for countless lives. These verily are the attributes of it; all the misery and the obstacles are the consequences of doing just that, this is all one has done. All he needs is a handful of people to blow the horn, create publicity and things will start to roll. A person does not realize the consequences of doing this. It will be great if he becomes free in this life but that only happens if he understands all this. Otherwise, intense greed (alacha) to be worshipped and revered will not allow him to attain liberation.
