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If he answers, 'I am Lallubhai, the lawyer, did you not recognize me?' you can say he also has abhimaan (pride with 'my-ness)
So these are all its traits.
Abhimaan arises when ahamkar associates with mamata, i.e. when the ego associates with my-ness! This 'my-ness' can be of any kind. When the ego is by itself, without 'my-ness (mamata), it is called simply ego (ahamkar).
Questioner: Then there is the word tundmijaji? What is the definition of that?
Dadashri: Tundmijaji! This is a person who does not have any understanding or money and yet he has endless arrogance (mijaj). He cannot even get married (no body will have him!) 'Why are you being so arrogant when you can't even get married?' That is called tundmijaji.
Then we have a tumakhi. Some seventy-five years ago the collectors, police, D.S.P. (District Superintendent of Police) all had tumakhi - as if they were God. They used to beat up prominent businessmen. What tumakhi! I witnessed that not too long ago. Because of my business as a contractor, I had to meet with these officers and so I have seen these traits in them. In a train, a person could not sit in front of a collector in the first class. They were honest and disciplined but they had infinite tumakhi. What tumakhi! They petrified people. An executive engineer, who used to come to our business, would create a very intense situation. He would do as he pleased because he had authority
I have seen such tumakhi, but now it makes me laugh when I look at these collectors. In the past they displayed such authority with arrogance, as if they were God visiting offices. But today these very people walk around with slippers and if you accidentally step on their toes, they say 'please! please!'
whereas before if someone were to do the same to them, they would hit that person with a 'hunter' (leather cane), but today they are reduced to being subservient. They have straightened up after a lot of beating. Their arrogance- tumakhi has gone down. Before a person could not utter even a word to these collectors on the train but look how they have mellowed from all the beatings. Now they will tell you, 'Yes, it is fine. It will do.' They even succumb to their wives, 'Yes, yes it will do.' Before they would never say, 'It will do' and now?
They have calmed down considerably. Today people can criticize prominent people without any repercussions. See how they have mellowed and straightened up. They are going to straighten up more with further beating.
Questioner: Next, what are the qualities of a ghemraji? Dadashri: What does ghemraji mean? Questioner: Does it mean ghamand?
Dadashri: No, ghamand is different and ghemraji is different. People are very shrewd. Up to a certain point there is ghamand and if it goes beyond this point then we call it ghemraji. It becomes distinctive the moment there is a change in intensity. People are very smart.
Ghemraji is someone who boasts and brags. He will say, 'I can go all over the world,' when he can't even travel three miles. People needlessly walk around boasting and bragging like this. It is all in their mind but there are people who bring them down to earth. People will openly make comments about them ‘he is a ghamandi or ghemraji.' 'He has abhimaan. 'People will comment this way.
What is a ghemraji? A ghemraji is someone who snubs people wherever he goes, 'move away from here! We can tell him, "Arey! Let me sit for a while!' but he will not let you sit; he will ask you to move. Such people do not value anyone. To
