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are the kind of divisiveness it creates. If you were to ask someone, 'Since you claim this is your home; then you must not have any separation due to differences in your home.' He will tell you, 'No there is no matbhed (separation due to differences) in our home.' But what do they do when they fight with each other in the home? Do two people not fight with each other in the home?
Questioner: Yes they do.
Dadashri: What do they do at that time? Will they not say, 'You are like this', and she will say, 'You are like that.' Where do these differences end up? It all comes down to, From now on, I am all alone. No one is mine. No one else is mine.' This same old divisive vision of 'yours and mine, yours and mine' continues over and over again.
The boundary of mamata (my-ness)
One man tells me, 'I cannot get rid of my mamata.' I told him, 'How can you get rid of it? As far as you know, whatever falls within the boundary of your property is yours, is that correct? Or do you claim you own things beyond that boundary? You are able to define certain boundaries, are you not? So can you show me the boundary of mamata? What is the boundary of mamata? Other people too can show you the boundary of your house but do you not need to define the boundary of mamata as well?
People have not seen the boundary of mamata. Everything looks good with a boundary. Do you look beyond the boundaries of your home and say that the house next door is also yours?
Questioner: No.
Dadashri: Does the house not have a boundary too? You don't claim the neighbor's house as yours do you? So, what I am saying is let mamata be but it should be within a boundary.
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So what should be the boundary of mamata? Your boundary is: whatever you have mamata for will come with you when you die; that is the boundary of mamata. So what does the boundary of mamata mean? It means that as long as you are living, it will remain yours and not after you die. The Lord has said to have mamata towards your finger; according to the Lord you may say, 'this is 'my' finger', but He has said that we should not have mamata for the ring on the finger. Why, because the ring will be taken away; it will be left behind. Will they not take away the ring? And sometimes if the ring does not come out, they will even break the finger in order to take it out! So do not have mamata there.
So that which no longer exists after one leaves this world is the limit for one's mamata. Mamata beyond this boundary should be removed. So what kind of mamata should go away? The mamata, (my-ness) towards your one and only son should go away and similarly any other such mamata elsewhere should also go away. This is not just mere talk. Elsewhere people can multiply the non-truth with non-truth and still pass the exam. But one cannot pass the examination of the Gnani. Here one cannot get by with just idle talks. With the Gnani you need 'exactness'.
Mamata of the Insurance Agent
If a ship is sinking and the insurance agent is watching, will it have an effect on him? If the ship ends up sinking, will he not have to pay money?
Questioner: Yes, he has to pay.
Dadashri: But will he be affected by it personally?
Questioner: He will not be affected personally.
Dadashri: Why is that? So if something belonging to a business is lost, who will worry about it? Everyone claims, this is our', but do they have any mamata?
