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non-communicative) face if someone tells him, 'You do not have any sense.' Hey! Do you not have commonsense? Why do you have a sulking face just because someone tells you this? You think to yourself 'I have a lot of sense', don't you? Just look at you! You are nothing but a 'sack of sense' No one will give you a dime for your 'sack of commonsense' and yet you needlessly fret over this. A sensible man will adjust everywhere. There is a shortage of commonsense in the current time cycle.
Have they defined 'commonsense' properly? Is this an old meaning or a new one?
Questioner: Original, it is a new meaning
Dadashri: It is original, is it not? Has anyone defined it before? People get excited when I tell them that the meaning of commonsense is that it is applicable everywhere, theoretically as well as practically. They tell me that I have defined it very nicely. So I tell them, this verily is the sign of my failing matriculation!
The Yard stick of commonsense
You have a degree of C.A. (Chartered Accountant) but you still have roles to play. You will have to act accordingly; the roles of a C.A., then the role of a husband to your wife; will you not have to know all that? Otherwise, your wife will give you trouble. Is that not so, because you do not know how to deal with her? She would not give you any trouble if you did. And your wife has not come to give you trouble; she has come to make a home for you. But when one of you falls short in your role, the other party will start to nag; the nagging will start. Yes, it is because you do not have the know-how!
What do young women say when I ask them for their opinions about the young men of today? They tell me, "They are stupid. "Is that not something to be ashamed of, when they say this?
It is natural for a ten-year old girl to have the maturity and worldly knowledge a fifteen-year-old boy would have. She may
be ten years old but she has foresight. Therefore women have greater foresight, home administration skill etc.
Lack of practical understanding
I asked one lady, 'Why do you not get along with your husband?' She told me, 'He is so smart and intelligent: you cannot even begin to talk about it.'I said to her, 'It is good for you if your husband is smart.' She then says, 'But he is not practical.' So what she is saying is that he does not have commonsense and so he fights over the most trivial things. Then she tells me, 'What should I do, he does not have any commonsense?' I told her, I understand everything you don't have to say any more. How can one have reconciliation here! Should a person not have at least some commonsense for worldly interaction? Should a person not be practical?
So what do I tell the women? I tell them, 'Listen dear. What will become of you if your husband turns out to be someone without practical commonsense? Will you like living a "nonsense life" with someone like that? Nevertheless, you will not be able to escape your prarabdha (the effect of past karma; one's destiny; karma effect), and yet you cannot do as you wish either. Such is this world, so if you get a husband without commonsense, come and tell me immediately and I will repair' him and give you the keys to have a harmonious life.' This is how I solved that woman's problem. Your worldly interactions are at their best
when your ego is down A man without commonsense will not have even an hour of harmony with his wife! Problems arise because there is no commonsense. What happens when such a man gets married? Today he will get a wife; they get together at night and separate within an hour. To begin with they do not know how to deal with each other. They do not even know where to begin. Should one not have the art of how to live in harmony?
