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with each other. But in many cases, I actually lost money in these welding. I would have recovered the money had I not done the welding. After the welding, the two would become one and I became the outsider. But nature watches all this, does it not? So I continued doing what I did. But I did have many bitter experiences. I left it to nature. Had the welding not been done, even the other person's wife would tell him, 'Why don't you return his money?' But after the welding, the wife would not say anything
Did you understand this example? Would there not be many such incidents?
To the Welder... And what do people generally do? Once they get burnt, they stop welding and start driving a wedge between the two. This way at least they maintain their importance and reputation (rof)
Many people will not cause a rift between two people but where a rift exists, they would not help mend it either and all because of their own self-importance (rof). There are also people who will create rifts between people, but these are few in numbers. Some will not help mend the rift because it works out to their advantage. Only a few would make the mistakes I made! But I used to patch things up everywhere, not just in certain instances because my desire was to fix, not destroy.
Questioner: Dada this is a great science, the science of welding
Dadashri: Yes, it is a great science but the world does not find it acceptable. Generally, in this world, when two people meet, one of them will start complaining about someone and the other person will join in.
Should one not understand what I am saying? It happened in our family too. The one who tries to patch
things up takes a beating and the one who does not weld, they give him a lot of importance, 'Welcome uncle. Welcome. Come in uncle. But the welding begets one a lot of beating which leads to vairagya (dispassion towards the worldly life), will it not? What is the end result? One is overcome with vairagya; otherwise there is no way to attain vairagya. How is it possible to attain dispassion in this world? Do you ever feel like renouncing even a little of it? And if you try to do this kind of welding you will always take a beating. In this world, only the one doing the welding will take a beating. And in the end he is filled with dispassion: 'I did it all for their happiness but even then I end up with all the beating! I have taken so much beating: I have paid a tremendous price in this process. Do not let your bhaav turn into abhaav
Questioner: Welding was in my prakruti from the very beginning but I stopped after I got a beating.
Dadashri: It will stop! It is the same for the whole world. Those raised in a noble home will have the intent of welding Then they will stop after they get hurt. They cannot deal with that. You will get hurt so get involved only if you have the energy and the strength to take the punishment!
Questioner: As it is, the beating is inevitable. Why ruin our spiritual progress by getting hurt, instead why not try to improve things for our atma (soul), for our own inner growth?
Dadashri: Because, when you call someone 'donkey! the Self within understands, 'He called me a donkey! He called me names': there are consequences for that. The Self also recognizes when the 'welding (patching up) is being done by 'him' (welder). So then, one has come towards the Self and in the relative realm (pudgal) there is the beating
Questioner: But there is nothing wrong in it if it increases dispassion towards the worldly life (vairagya) in this manner:
