Aptavani 09

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Mahavideh Foundation

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Questioner: The loss remains the same.
Dadashri: Then what is the point of stopping the worrying? Should you not continue to worry until you recover the loss?
Questioner: But worrying starts again on its own and it stops on its own.
Dadashri: When it stops, you should again say, 'Why have you stopped when the loss has not been recovered? Come back.
There is no problem of thinking about the loss, but it is only worth thinking about it to the point where you sustain no personal inner loss. Otherwise if worrying and suspicion stop on their own, even if the loss is still at hand, then there is no point of worrying or having suspicion. It is best to stop worrying, right from the beginning
People tend to forget all the phases. They forget the past as they proceed forward. 'We do not forget even for a second, even if the incident occurred some forty years ago. But people forget. It is better to forget before nature forces you to do so. It is fruition of karma that reminds you and it is also fruition of karma that makes you forget. So 'You' should pat your relativeself on the back and tell your relative-self, Chandulal, 'what is 'is' and what is 'is not' is not', nothing is going to change that which is in vyavasthit
Therefore if you are going to worry, worry your whole life otherwise do not. Worry about incurring a loss until it is recovered. But like a top (toy), we remain under control of other things and the worrying stops on its own, what is that all about? If your worrying stops on its own even before the loss is recovered, then why not put a stop to it from the beginning? Does it not stop before the loss ends?
Questioner: Yes.
Dadashri: Then you have to ask the 'worrier', 'Why did you stop? Why did you start in the first place? Now that you have started, let it go till the loss is recovered.'
...otherwise do not harbor suspicions
'We had understood one thing even before attaining Gnan. Once I had become suspicious about one man. I felt that he was going to cheat me. Then I came to a decision that if I was going to be suspicious then I should be suspicious throughout my life otherwise I should not do it at all. If you are going to be suspicious, be that way throughout your life. That is what the Lord considers awareness. If suspicion is going to end once it starts, then do not even start it. If you leave Baroda to go to Kashi-Banaras but return home half way, from Mathura, it would have been better if you had never left. So from the day I became suspicious of that man, from that time onwards, I do not harbor any suspicions. Otherwise I would not have any more dealings with him. I would not be cheated anymore. If I wanted to continue being suspicious, then I would avoid worldly interaction with that person for the rest of my life.
Be cautious but not suspicious
Questioner: We have to maintain awareness when we are driving, do we similarly not have to maintain awareness in our worldly dealings, such as 'If I do it this way, will this man take advantage of me'? Do we not have to keep that in our awareness?
Dadashri: You have to be cautious and aware but do not have suspicions. You do not need to be preoccupied with the suspicion of 'what if he takes advantage of me?' Suspicion is very harmful. You just have to be cautious. Suspicion will cause you misery the moment it arises.
Questioner: Often problems arise at work and they are such that we begin to have suspicions about certain people and that causes continuous unhappiness within