Aptavani 09

Author(s): Gnani Purush Dadashri
Publisher: Gnani Purush Dadashri

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is going to have a positive effect, then 'we' will say a few words to him, 'Sir, 'we' made a mistake, please be patient. We are all prone to mistakes.' 'We would explain things to him in this way and pacify him. However there would be no insistence on our part, there is complete vitaragata. Constant vitaragata-detachment! There would not the least bit of pull bhav towards him or repulsion abhav away from him. And then we have to tell “Dada Bhagwan', 'Please grace this man.' Then, to the pure Soul, which is separate from 'Chandulal and "Chandulal's mind-body-speech, bhaavkarma-dravyakarma-nokarma' 'we' request, 'Please shower Your grace on 'Chandulal'. I make all these connections. Then I remain vitaragdetached. The other person continues to upset and noncommunicative risavoo and I remain straight. This worldly interaction continues. He remains entagled for a while and then it all goes away.
Questioner: Then, Dada, is it not true that a man who is apt to resorting to becoming upset and noncommunicative risavoo, will automatically stop if he does not get any encouragement for such behavior?
Dadashri: 'We never encourage such people, not even a little. Encouragement has a negative effect on such an individual.
Even children will improve if you remain vitarag with them but by encouraging, their upset and noncommunicative risavoo behavior they will get on the wrong path. One needs vitaragata-detached interaction! Treat them with tender care if they come to you and do not react if they do not. If they come, hug them gently and if they get agitated just leave them alone. Then if they come again, hug them again. You should not concern yourself with the way they are behaving; you simply have to remain vitarag. Whatever they do, you should not be concerned about it and neither should you make a intense mental note nondha of it.
Questioner: That is a tremendous thing, Dada.
Dadashri: There should be no intense mental note nondha whatsoever. Nondha gives to conflicts. Do not make a mental note of anyone. 'We scold all these people but 'we' never make any note of it. 'We' would go crazy if I were to make any note at all. "We got rid of the notebook altogether long ago!
Vitarag and yet meddlesome