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For those going to moksha
Know that you are on your way to moksha when dehadhyas goes away. Dehadhyas means to believe 'I am the body'. You are on the path of the vitarag if you do not experience any attachment or abhorrence when someone curses you, beats you or takes your wife away from you in front of your eyes. Men allow that to happen because of their physical weakness. If the other man is strong, he will let him take his wife away.
So nothing belongs to you; everything is of the non-Self. If you want to live in this worldly life, become strong in it and if you want to go to moksha, become worthy of it. When even your own body is not your own how can the wife be yours? How can the daughter be yours? So you should think about all of this in advance; think about what you should do if someone were to take your wife away from you.
Therefore, in what is going to happen, in that nothing can be changed, such is the vyavasthit. Therefore do not have any fear. Therefore it has been said that it is vyavasthit. As long as one is spared the scene of infidelity, one carries on saying, my wife, my wife. And once one sees it, then the turmoil begins. Hey you! It was like this all along. Do not look for anything new here.
Questioner: But Dada you are being very lenient here.
Dadashri: What 'we' am saying is that there is no sense in having unnecessary expectations in this era of the current time cycle dushamkaad. Even the government has created the divorce laws because it is aware that this will happen. That is why they created the law first. That is why always a medicinal plant will grow first and then will come the disease. Similarly, a law is created first and then the incidents take place.
'Safe-side' related marital conduct
Therefore, any man who wants peace of mind with regards to his wife, should marry an unattractive woman so that no other man will be interested in her. She herself will say, 'No one else will have me, only my husband keeps me.' She will remain very sincere to him. If she is good looking, other men will enjoy her by looking at her lustfully. They will have bad intentions
