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When the ahamkar ego associates with mamata – 'myness' then abhimaan arises. This 'myness can be of any kind. When the ego is by itself, without mamata, it is called ego ahamkar.
Questioner: Then there is the word toondmijaji? What is the definition of that?
Dadashri: Toondmijaji!This is a person who does not have any understanding, and money and yet he has endless arrogance mijaj. He cannot even get married (no body will marry him!) 'Why are you being so arrogant when you can't even get married?' That is called toondmijaji.
Then we have a tumakhi. Some seventy-five years ago the collectors, police, D.S.P. (District Suprintendent of Police) all had tumakhi - as if they were God. They used to beat up big businessmen. What tumakhi! I witnessed that not too long ago. Because of my business as a contractor, I had to meet with these officers and so I have seen these traits in them. In a train, a person could not sit in front of a collector in the first class. They were honest and disciplined but they had infinite tumakhi. What tumakhi! They petrified people. An executive engineer, who used to come to our business, would create a very intense situation. He would do as he pleased because he had authority.
I have seen such tumakhi, but now it makes me laugh when I look at these collectors. In the past they displayed such authority with arrogance, as if they were God visiting. But today these very people walk around with slippers and if you accidentally step on their toes, they say 'please! please! wherease before if someone were to do this to them, they would hit that person with a hunter-leather cane, but today they are reduced to being subservient. They have straightened up after receiving a lot of beating. Their arrogance- tumakhi has gone down. Before a person could not utter even a word to these collectors on the train but look how they have mellowed from all the beatings. Now they will tell you, "Yes, it is fine. It will do.' They even succumb to their wives, 'Yes, yes it will do.' Before they would never say, 'It will do' and now?
They have calmed down considerably. Today people can criticize prominent people without consequences. See how they have mellowed and straightened. They are going to straighten up more with further beating.
