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He will wear expensive
his pride. Maan is “ego with rich materials” clothes, jewellery etc. That is maan.
Questioner: What is the difference between an ahamkari and a maani person?
Dadashri: An ahamkari person does not have any fear of being insulted whereas a person with pride maan does. If one has pride maan then one will be affected by insults upmaan, but what if he has no pride maan?
Questioner: But when his ego is broken, will he not feel insulted?
Dadashri: No that is simply called breaking the ego. But only if there is maan, there will be upmaan.
What is pride with 'myness' abhimaan? If a person has possessions, he will tell others about them; that is what we call abhimaan. Everyone does this; people cannot refrain from telling others about their possessions. But when is it considered abhimaan? The ego is there for sure but suppose you are going to a shop and you are in hurry, someone you know stops you, you may ask him, 'What is it? I am in a hurry' he will say, "These are my homes, these two buildings and those two buildings are mine.' That is called abhimaan. 'Why are you telling me now, I have to go. Why are you bothering me?' But he is showing his pride with 'myness'. He will tell you how good something is even when you do not ask. What is the reason behind it? He has that extra pride. It is different matter if you had asked him, but if he tells you without being asked, it is abhimaan. When he is itching to tell you, it is abhimaan.
Questioner: Is it because of abhimaan one says, 'Mine is highere than
his'?
Dadashri: Yes, it is because of abhimaan. Abhimaan means he gives examples of this is better, this is mine'. This is my property, that is my property, this is my car etc. so based on this he is trying to say that his is better than the other. He does not say it directly. Abhimaan is when one has more than what is necessary and makes a show of it. He believes, 'How happy I am.' Thus he tries to make others feel inferior. This is abhimaan.
