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So an abhimaani will show off all his possessions, he will even show you the expensive eyeglasses he bought. He will say, 'Did you see my glasses? What am I going to do with your glasses that you keep showing them to me? But he does it to feed his abhimaan. He will also show off his clothes or the shoes he bought. That is abhimaan.
He will go so far as to show off his son-in-law if he is educated and good-looking. He will tell you, 'Come and see my son-in-law.' What is so special about your son-in-law? Everyone has one, what is there to see? But he will say, 'No, you have to see my son-in-law.' Then when you tell him, "You have found yourself a good son-in-law. What a good looking man!'he is satisfied. Then he will also take you out to dinner. He will say, 'You have to dine with us today. You cannot leave without having something to eat.'
Abhimaan means to exhibit pride maan wherever one can. Even if his brother's house is small, he will show it to you, 'This is my brother's house, this is my uncle's house and that is my house.' He tries to show anything as big, that is abhimaan. His pride with 'myness' - abhimaan is at work there. Abhimaan is to show others something of yours inorder to impress them. Why does he show off? For pride maan! When he goes beyond maan, he will not be satisfied even with abhimaan. Nature will sort him out by punishing him and then he will get back on track. Just because you have four cars, you should have any maan or abhimaan about it, If one exhibits it, it is beginning of the departure of those things. As one gets these items of worldly comforts, one should become humble.
When a man claims 'I have four sons, this son is a Chartered Accountant, etc.,' it is all abhimaan. 'I am fair skinned, I am trim', all that is abhimaan too. 'I am fairer than other people; they have dark complexion', all that is abhimaan. Do people not have pride mada because of his or her looks?
Questioner: Yes they do.
Dadashri: If someone has a beautiful wife, he has maan, mada pride of, 'There is no one like my wife.' Does that happen or not?
Questioner: Yes it does.
