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understand that everyeone is irritated, but what can he do? The path that Dada has shown you is straight; it is ekavtari i.e. one can achieve liberation within one more lifetime. So remain in saiyam (without kashayas: angerpride-deceit and greed) and settle your files with equanimity. Whether she is your daughter, your wife or anyone else, deal with them with equanimity. No one is anyone's daughter or wife, in this world. Everything is dependant upon the fruition of one's own karma. However, we cannot make this statement to those who do not have Gnan. If you tell them this, they will fight with you.
Now when does your moksha become ruined? When you become asaiyami (with kashayas : anger-pride-deceit-greed). Our Gnan is not such that it will cause asaiyam. Gnan is constant saiyam. Externally induced troubles upadhi arise the moment suspicion arises.
Therefore, to have suspicion or to become laden with suspicioun shankashil is a grave liability. I have seen a father of nine girls be free from suspicions, even in the worst of Kaliyug. And all the girls got married. How long would he have lived, had he lived in suspicion? So never become suspicious because you will be the greatest loser.
Questioner: What kind of a loss does one incur with suspicion? Please clarify this?
Dadashri: It is nothing but misery. Direct living misery. Is that a minor loss? If one goes deeper and becomes even more suspicious, it will cause him pain that is comparable to death.
Questioner: It will hurt like being struck with a spear.
Dadashri: A spear is better. There is greater pain and misery in suspicion. A spear just jabs but suspicion will kill a person. Do not be suspicious otherwise it will lead to more anguish and turmoil.
Solution for suspicions
No man can be free from suspicion. When my mother was alive, there was a moment when I got off the train at Baroda station, I would have thoughts like, 'What if mother died suddenly today? How am I even going to enter the home?' I used to have such suspicions. All kinds of suspicions
