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you will have to suffer the consequences. But instead people put things in their pockets and try to sneak out from the other side. Then they have to face the consequences of their actions when they are caught in their next life. So do not take anything; enjoy everything but do not make it ‘mine'. Can you say this is mine' to anything in the museum? What do you think?
Questioner: That is true.
Dadashri: Wherever there is quarrel, there verily is my-ness mamata. There is no quarrel with anyone on the outside. Then he will say, 'my wife is no good.' You fool, why do you say, 'my'? He still does not let go of his 'myness'. He would not let go of that, would he?
Questioner: These words 'my' and 'no-good' are being used at the same time; such a thought never occurs to anyone!
Dadashri: Yes, he will even say, 'my wife is no-good. She is worth divorcing'. Spoken words have an effect. Every spoken word will have an effect. The effect of , 'She is not mine' remains and the effect of 'she is mine,' remains.
Saying, 'mine' it sticks; with , 'not mine', it leaves
A friend of ours was married for ten years and then his wife died leaving behind three young children. He used to cry and so I had gone to console him, as did many others. I asked him, 'Why are you crying? What is the point of it now?' he told me, 'But what about these three children? I am lost without her.' I asked him, 'but what will you do? Is she going to come back?' he replied, 'But I do not like being without her, what should I do about that?' I told him, 'You do not like being without your wife now but if the two of you had met on a train eleven years ago, you would have shoved past her. You married her ten years ago but is it possible that even ten days prior to your marriage, you would have ignored her? Is that possible or not?' he said, 'But I did not know her then, did I?' I told him, 'Would you not have insisted that she vacate your reserved seat on the train had you met her prior to getting married with her?' He asked me what was my point. I told him that when he sat across from her under their wedding canopy and as he looked at her, that is when he twisted the first knot of 'myness' mamata by saying this is my wife' and she did the same by saying 'this is my husband'. I told him, 'neither of you had this mamata 'myness' prior to
