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Conflicts because insatiable desire of sexual pleasure
Questioner: When one is not successful in his intense greed lalachas for sex, does he not start becoming suspicious?
Dadashri: He will do everything when he does not succeed. He will become suspicious and have negative thoughts disguised in many ways. After that, may the Lord have mercy on him! It will give rise to further avarice but on top of that, it will disgrace him. Once it takes control over him, it will disgrace him without fail.
One has no relationship with the 'wife' through thoughts, speech and actions. One exists in proximity with a wife as a resoult of past life karma. To have a relationship, sexual interaction is excerising dominance as a husband dhanipanu. This is not right, it should not be so. Dhanipanu is to behave like an animal for sex.
Questioner: But he excercises his dominance dhanipanu and bosses her around only when sex is involved, is that not so?
Dadashri: Bossiness as a husband means to threaten the wife into having sex. But then he will pay the price for it in his next life.
Questioner: What will happen?
Dadashri: It binds vengeance veyr. Is any soul likely to remain suppressed?
When husband and wife have a lot of conflicts, he will say to her, "Why do you walk around upset and noncommunicative risavoo? Why do you look so lousy and upset?' The upset and noncommunicativeness risavoo will increase even more and she will keep that displeasure on her mind. She will say to herself 'I will take care of him when the time comes.' She will not refrain from remembering and avenging the displeasure. Every living being will do the same; every living being harbors this inner grudge of vengeance rees, all it takes is a little prodding and teasing for it to express. No one will remain suppressed by anyone. Each and every soul lives independently and they have no real connections with one another. It is only through illusion that everything appears as ‘mine' and 'mine-yours'.
