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Dadashri: Will your restlessness solve the problem on the outside? Is it going to stop her from going out with the boyfriend? Nothing is going to change and that suspicion will kill you. Therefore, the moment suspicion arises, instantly remember that Dada has said 'no' to it and that you are to stop it. Nevertheless, you should take the necessary worldy precautions.
Do other people not have daughters? And do their daughters not go to college? It is not like the old days when girls were kept at home, is it? So do you not have to act according to the current times? If other girls talk to their boy friends, then can your daughters not do the same with their boy friends?
It is no fun to see these parents when they become suspicious about their daughters because they either have seen or heard something about their daughters. When they come to me asking what to do, I tell them to get rid of their suspicions. You are suspicious because you saw something, what if you had not seen it? Suspicion arose only from what you saw, so why don't you correct it thus, that you never saw anything in the first place? All that is already there 'underground', but the father wonders, 'What if this were to happen?' He becomes possessed with ghosts of suspicion, which will not leave him alone; the whole night long. These ghosts will not let him go for months on end. Therefore, it is wrong to have suspicions.
Suspicion? No, take care of her.
A father of four girls had come to me for advice. He said, 'I have four daughters going to college and it is natural to be concerned. What should I do about it? What should I do about these four girls? What if they go on the wrong path?' I told him, 'But they will not improve by you being suspicious. Do not be suspicious. When they come home, sit down with them and talk to them properly; be friends with them. Talk to them about their likes and dislikes. Do not be preoccupied with your job and making money. Take care of your daughters needs first. They love it when you eat, drink and talk with them. The love you have for her is superficial, she does not feel it, and that is why she seeks love elsewhere.
Then I asked him if he would throw his daughter out of the house if she fell in love with someone and stayed out late at night? He tells me, "Yes, I will tell her to get out. I would not let her come into the house.' I told him, 'Do not ever do that. Where would she go in the middle of the night?
