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The unawareness of the illusionary attachment-moha
A person may not have suspicions towards his daughters because he has attachment due to the illusion moha, raag for them. Where there is the illusion moha, one can never see a mistake, the error there. The whole world takes a beating due to this moha. Every parent will say, 'My daughters are good girls.' Then that must mean that the current cycle is that of the Satyug - an era of virtue and morality. Any parent you ask will say the same thing, so this must be Satyug, don't you think? And then they will say, 'Other people's daughters are unchaste.' They even say that.
Questioner: And nowadays if one says anything about his daughter, he will come down on you.
Dadashri: You can never say that. He will come down hard on you and curse you. You can never say anything to anyone. It is good that parents have attachment raag towards their children. They do not see any faults in their children because of their attachment and yet they will see faults in other peole's children. It is good that they do not see faults in their daughters; it keeps them at peace for the time being, and they will worry about other things when the time comes.
Unconstructive criticism
One man told me, 'My daughters are very sensible and wise.' I told him, "That is very nice.' Then he started to criticize other girls so I told him, 'Why are you criticizing other girls? Other people will criticize you if you criticize them.' He told me there was nothing in him that warranted criticism. So I told him, 'I will show you. You must remain silent.' Then I showed him his daughter's books and everything in it. He was shocked and so I told him, 'Just keep quiet. Do not criticize anyone. I know about you and yet why did I not say a word to you? Why do I remain quiet even when you are being pompous about all this?' I understand that he gets satisfaction by being self-righteous; atleast he feels at peace but when he started to criticize others, I had to tell him, 'Do not criticize.' It is wrong to criticize other people's daughters when you have daughters of your own. Those who do not have daughters of their own would not criticize this way. The ones with daughters criticize a lot. Are you not ashamed that being a father yourself, you are criticizing this way? If you entertain such suspicion, where will it end?