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That is why I tell you that if you spend time with people, if you get acquainted with them, it will create affection in their hearts for you. When you discuss things you can pick up on people's experiences and in doing so, your commonsense will increase. By mixing with people and moving around with them, your commonsense will increase.
Questioner: You have said that one should live in harmony with others, but I experience contempt and scorn in such situations.
Dadashri: This happens because there is presence of contempt. So if you get rid of contempt and live in harmony with others then your commonsense will increase. When you cannot have contempt even towards animals, how can you have it towards human beings? If you had a standing in the society then one would understand if you showed any contempt, but that is not so. You cannot be contemptuous.
What do we mean by sense? If one who gets married, but has only a few conflicts with his wife throughout his life, they do not have conflicts everyday. That is sensible living. But if a man is without this sensibility, he brings home a wife, she upset and noncommunicative risavoo with him and he does not know how to deal with her; he does not know how to open the 'lock' (solve problems). So what is to become of the wife?
Singing in harmony is the key
A husband will not speak with his wife for five days after they have a row. He does not know what to do there, so how can he get beyond the stage of noncommunicativeness? That relationship will then begin to rust. If it were a Muslim man, then he would immediately know how to appease his wife and live in harmony. Commonsense means to sing in harmony with the right note.
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Questioner: What does it mean to sing in harmony with the right
Dadashri: His method is similar to 'ours'. It means to handle matters the way I do. What would a Muslim gentlemman say? 'I will never fight with my wife. She will fight with me but I will not fight with her."
