Aptavani 09

Author(s): Gnani Purush Dadashri
Publisher: Gnani Purush Dadashri

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Dadashri: Do not people advise, say 'no'. They say, ' I do not have any obstinacy in me.'
Obstinacy: Common and Uncommon
Who does not have the experience of obstinacy? The greater the intellect buddhi, the greater the obstinacy. Those who have wisdom (samajright understanding) are less obstinate. Those with heavy veils over spirituality are very obstinate. They will not let go of their obstinacy. Now what do you call such obstinacy? What is the difference between their obstinacy and that of an average person? What is the difference between common and uncommon obstinacy? Uncommon obstinacy is unshakeable gaadha obstinacy. Such obstinacy cannot be rid of, just like this state of unshakeable gaadha samkit right belief, right vision, 'I am pure Soul', which can never leave; neither can the state of deeply entrenched wrong belief gaadha mithyatva, 'I am Chandulal', ever leave. No matter how much you make a person understand, he will not let go of his position. Such is the uncommon obstinacy; it will not leave it's position.
Obstinacy in men and women
Do you have a little bit of obstinacy in you? A little at least? Then why not ask him to help you get rid of it? A few hurtful jabs from him will make the obstinacy in you go away.
Questioner: Does obstinacy leave only through hurtful jabs ?
Dadashri: Then how else? Does he not prod you ever? Otherwise, there is nothing but baggage of obstinacy everywhere. A person without obstinacy is considered straight and flexible sarad and such a person can be molded in any shape or form.
Questioner: Do men ever admit to their obstinacy? He will only know his obstinacy when his wife says something to him.
Dadashri: Women too are very obstinate. "We are not talking about just men. It is only when both parents are so, that the children turn out the way they do. And it is the men who make the women obstinate. Women are not obstinate by nature; they are not born obstinate. Men are obstinate from