Aptavani 09

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Mahavideh Foundation

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My-ness should be there with a boundary. The boundary of my-ness means, it will exist as long as one is alive, for example the 'my-ness' with the body. Any further extension of my-ness should not be there, including the 'my-ness' for an only son. Otherwise, that extended my-ness will only be painful
How can anyone create a wedge in our unity? Those who do are plotters with deceitful gossip. How can they be allowed to interfere? How can one afford to be immature and allow himself to be instigated by others?
One should always do the 'welding' (patching up) whenever a wedge is created with anyone. It is considered a great quality of virtue to do the 'welding' for others, even if there is suffering and difficulty on the part of the one doing the welding
In these times, the one who does the welding i.e. unifies others, will suffer. After the welding, the two estranged parties will unite and the welder will be at a loss! After this kind of suffering the welder backs off. However, the one who wants to improve for the Self should weld in spite of the suffering!
If one is not comfortable in doing the welding, he should maintain the intention in his mind of, 'I want to do the welding' but he should not have the negative intention of 'It is better if they are separated.'
Those who break up relationships are found everywhere but those who unite people are rarely to be found. 4. My-ness (mamata): intense insatiable greed (lalacha)
While life is short, how can a single minute be wasted? You should pass through this world without any 'dirt' touching you. Where there are no expectations of any kind at all, no blemish of any kind at all, where there is complete purity, there is the status of the Gnani! The Gnani Purush does not have any attachment even for his body. The Gnani Purush is without ego or 'my-ness'
Mamata (my-ness) means 'mine' and as a result of this my-ness, T has continued to exist. The span of my-ness can expand from my body' to 'my wife, my house, my town, my country, my world.' Etc.
If an insured ship sinks, how much worrying does the insurance agent have? If one's my-ness is of this kind, it will not cause any pain.
If a bungalow burns down after it is sold and all the documents are signed, would one feel anything? No: if 'myness' can vanish simply by signing papers of agreement, can it not go away by correct understanding? Otherwise, the bungalow will say, 'Boss, either I will go or you will go.'
What are the rules in a museum? You are allowed to see everything and tour around but you can't take anything with you. In the same token, people have to leave everything behind and go with respect, lying down in a funeral bier! In such a world, why have all these headaches?
What is indicated by the 'my-ness' that causes clashes? Why is there pain when the wife who is really not your own, dies? At the time of the marriage ceremony this my-ness becomes completely binding as the husband begins to think this is my wife...my wife...my wife... 'Because of this, there is a psychological effect and the 'my-ness' about the wife enters within. This is what causes pain and freedom from this pain occurs when the complex knots of 'my-ness' are untangled by saying 'not mine...not mine...etc.
Worldly things are not the impediments to liberation but my-ness is. The object for which there is my-ness will be the binding object. In fact, what object belongs to us when in the end, even the body does not accompany us!