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life without Conflict
life without Conflict
through the mind, body and speech. Upyoga means to use the intellect, mind and chit for the benefit of others. If you do not use them for others, then use them for those at home. Why does a female dog get food to eat? She gets it because she takes care of her puppies, in whom God resides. The world functions on this very basis. Where do the trees get their nourishment? Do the trees have to make an effort? They never become emotional. Do they ever become emotional? They never feel like going a mile to the river for a drink of water!
Obliging Others Is Helping Yourself Questioner: What kinds of actions or deeds are considered good in the world? Can they be defined?
Dadashri: Yes. The actions of the trees are absolutely good actions but the trees do not have a sense of doer-ship. They have life in them; they give their fruits to others. You should do the same. You will keep receiving your fruits: fruits for your mind, your body and your speech. You will keep receiving things as long as you keep giving to others free of charge. You will not experience any difficulties in acquiring any of life's necessities. But if you enjoy the fruits of your good fortune yourself, then you will face difficulties. What will the owner of the mango tree do if the tree were to eat its own fruit? Would he not chop it down? Similarly people eat their own fruits. Not only that, they also charge a fee for it. They will charge twenty-two rupees to simply fill out a petition. Look what has become of the country where legal advice was free. In fact that free advice was given over a free meal. If there were a dispute in a village, the wealthy head businessman of the village would act as the arbitrator. He would bring the two parties together and make them
come to some kind of a settlement. If there were a debt to be satisfied, he would arrange for part of the money to be paid off in cash and make arrangements for the balance to be paid off in installments. Then all three would sit down and have a meal together and then go their separate ways. Now, can such lawyers be found today? Therefore understand the times and act accordingly. If you use your life only for your own benefit, there will be suffering at the time of death. You will not be able to leave this world and your belongings with equanimity.
If you spend your life for the benefit of others, you will not experience any difficulties and all your wishes will be fulfilled. But if you go around chasing things, none of your wishes will be fulfilled; this approach in life will not let you sleep peacefully. Businessmen today are not able to sleep for days at a time because they have done nothing but cheat and rob people.
Questioner: People who want to help others give guidance, but people do not accept their advice or listen to them. What can we do about that?
Dadashri: If a benevolent person looks for the understanding of the beneficiary, then he is making a judgment on the beneficiary. So do not look for understanding from those you seek to help. A mango tree gives its fruits to everyone but how many mangos does it eat itself?
Questioner: None at all. Dadashri: Then who are the mangoes for? Questioner: They are for others. Dadashri: Yes, does the tree look at whether the person
