Life without Conflict

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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life without Conflict
life without Conflict
the goods are bad and yet parents claim and believe their children will be like Lord Mahavir! How on earth can they be like Mahavir? What must be the qualities of a mother who is to raise a mahavir (great soul)! If the father is not quite up to par it will do, but what must the mother be like?
Questioner: So should we not even think about trying to mold our child or teach them moral values?
Dadashri: There is nothing wrong in thinking.
Questioner: The schools take care of their academic education but what about their moral and character development?
Dadashri: Leave their molding and development to the jeweler. Those who are expert at it will do the molding. You can say things to your child till he is about fifteen years old; you can mold and shape him to be like you, then his wife will take over. People do not have the skills or the knowledge of how to mold others, and yet they keep doing it. That is why their molding is not successful. The nose (his ego) ends up being two inches longer than it should be and later his wife will come and reduce it to size! Then he will try to do the same to her and thus starts the conflicts between them.
you have perceived something to be real when in reality it is not, attachment and abhorrence arise, but through pratikraman, you will attain liberation. Alochana-Pratikramanpratyakhyan, as shown by Dada, leads to liberation. (alochana = confession; pratikraman = ask for forgiveness pratyakhyan = avowal not to repeat the mistake)
This worldly life is nothing but a big joke. What would your son say if you were to fight with him for an hour? 'Either you leave or I will leave,' he would say. Then you as a father would retort, I will not give you your inheritance.' The son would then question, 'Who are you to stop me from receiving it?' He will be sure to procure his inheritance by any means necessary. There was one son who offered his lawyer an additional three hundred rupees to humiliate his father. The father told his son, 'Had I known you were going to turn out like this, I would have killed you the day you were born!' The son responded, 'It truly is a miracle that you did not.' How could the father have killed his son if his karma had destined him to be insulted in this manner by his son? There have been countless such incidents, which had you been a witness to your eardrums would have burst! You pitiful people, let it be known that incidents much worse than this have occurred! So now turn towards your Self. There is nothing but ghosts in the non-self, wherever you
Remain Dramatic in Everything that is Mandatory
go.
This is a drama! Life is a drama. How can you make the sons and daughters in a play, yours forever? Yes, there is nothing wrong in saying, “This is my son. May he live a hundred years, but you have to say it in a very superficial manner, as if you are acting in a play. For believing all these relations to be real, you have to do pratikraman. Wherever
For a female dog nursing her puppies is a mandatory act; it is not an act of benevolence. If a calf did not nurse from its mother, the cow would be miserable from the pain. Mothers feed their youngsters for their own benefit. Fathers raise their children for their own benefit, what is extraordinary about that? It is all mandatory.