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It is because you label everything as good or bad that you are harassed so. Make both the good and the bad equal. If you call this good, the other becomes bad and it will bother you. But if you mix the two together, you will not be affected. Adjust everywhere', is a principle that I have discovered. Adjust with the one who is telling the truth and also with the one who is not. If someone tells me, 'You have no sense,' I would tell him, 'I never had any to begin with. Why have you come looking for it now? You just discovered this today but I have always known this. If you say this, there will be no conflict. He will not come to you again looking for sense. If you do not do this, when will you ever reach your home- liberation?
I am showing you this simple and straightforward solution. It is not everyday that you get into an argument is it? It only happens when your past karmas come into fruition. And when that happens, you only need to adjust as much as the situation requires. If you quarrel at home with your wife, after the quarrel take her out to a restaurant and make her happy. There should be no scope for harboring grudges.
Adjustment is justice. Any form of insistence is not justice. I never insist on anything. We have a saying, "Use whatever water you have to in order to cook the beans. Ultimately you may even have to use the water from the gutter!" If you do not adjust and give in to a bandit who is holding you at knifepoint, he will hurt you. So you have to make a decision then adjust with him and get it over with. Ask him, 'What is your wish? We are on our way to a pilgrimage,' adjust to him. Do you fight with the sewer plant of Bandra when it smells? In the same way, when people smell; do you go to them to complain? Everything that smells
is like a sewer and everything that has a nice aroma is like a garden. Everything that comes to you with a smell, pleasant or unpleasant, is reminding you to remain vitarag (detached) with it.
If you do not adjust everywhere, you will go mad. Ongoing harassment and aggravation with the other person will make you mad. If you keep harrasing this dog he will respect you a few times but if you overdo it, he will bite you. The dog will come to realize, 'This man is no good. He harasses me everyday. He has no shame.' This is worth understanding. Do not argue;just adjust everywhere. The Worldly Confusion Will Become An Obstacle
First you have to understand worldly interactions; people suffer a lot because they do not have this understanding.
Questioner: Dada, your spiritual talks are unparalleled but so are your talks of interactions of worldly life.
Dadashri: It's like this: no one has attained moksha without understanding the ultimate facts about the worldly life. It does not matter how priceless the spiritual knowledge is but without understanding the worldly life, no one has attained moksha, because the worldly life has to set you free. What would you do if it does not set you free? You are a pure soul but the worldly life has to set you free, does it not? You keep entangling your worldly life and making it more complex. Why do not you bring about a solution quickly?
If you send this man to get some ice cream, he may come back empty-handed. If you ask him why, he will tell you that on the way there he came across a donkey and that
