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Those who master this, become Gnani! Keep your distance even with this body of yours! I always keep my distance with everyone, from the inside. Despite this everyone tells me, 'Dada you have so much affection for me.' I fulfill all my worldly interactions but by remaining within my domain as the pure Self.
Questioner: What should we do if sometimes there is a major conflict in our home?
Dadashri: A wise man would never get into any conflict, even if he were offered a hundred thousand rupees. But people fight every moment without any financial reward, is that not sheer stupidity? Lord Mahavir had to leave his home and walk miles and miles in search of penance in order to dissipate his karma, and this he was able to accomplish amidst barbaric and dangerous people. People today are so fortunate that they find such individuals in their very homes! What tremendous fortune! This is so helpful and beneficial towards dissipating your karma, providing you remain in Gnan!
An Hour of Wrongdoing but a Punishment of a Lifetime!
If you were to continuously scold your servant, your child, or your wife for just one hour, in your next life they will come to you as your wife or your mother-in-law and torment you your entire life! Is justice not needed? This is what you have to suffer. If you ever hurt anyone, then you will have to face a lifetime of suffering. If you hurt someone for just one hour, you will have to tolerate a lifetime worth of suffering. Then you will complain and question, 'Why is my wife treating me this way?' and your wife is asking
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herself, 'Why do I behave this way with my husband?' She too feels unhappy but what can anyone do? I asked one man whether he chose his wife or whether his wife chose him and he told me he had chosen his wife. So how can you blame the poor wife? Once you bring her home and she turns out to be contrary to your expectations, what can she do? Where is she to go? Many women actually beat their husbands!
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Questioner: If a man takes the beating, is he not considered spineless and a weakling?
Dadashri: Accepting a beating is not considered a weakness in a man. His karmic ties are such that his wife has come to him for the sole reason of making him suffer and she has no choice but avenge the karmic tie between them.
The 'Tops' Are Clashing And Bleeding Mentally
You should never consider scolding anyone in your life. Scolding is really a disease. To scold someone is nothing but ego, overt ego and a mad one at that. A person may think to himself, 'Unless I tell him off, he will not shape up.' On the contrary, scolding someone will put a strain on you. Do people enjoy reprimanding others?
At home you should only give advice if someone at home asks for it. God has said to give advice to anyone without being asked, is egoism. You may ask your wife where to put the drinking glasses and when she tells you, you should simply put them away where she tells you. Some men will make a comment like, 'Do not you have any sense where to put them?' The wife will then make a comment like, 'So use your own sense and put them away!' Now how can there be an end to such situations? These are nothing but
