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life without Conflict
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events clashing. These are all tops clashing with each other; they clash when they eat; they clash the moment they wake up. These tops bang into each other and get hurt and they even bleed! The blood that oozes is from their minds. It would be better to bleed physically, that way at least you could dress the wound. But can anyone dress the wounds of the mind?
Gnani's Words Heal All Wounds To say anything to anyone in your home is a major disease of the ego. Everyone has brought with them their own karmic accounts! Events are naturally unfolding for each and everyone, you do not have to tell them, 'Do this,' or "Why do you not do that?' Each one is looking through his eyes, each one is listening through his ears! There is no need to interfere at all. Do not say even a single word to anyone and that is why I am giving you this knowledge of vyavasthit. The world is never, even for a moment, outside the laws of vyavasthit. Even when it appears not to be vyavasthit, it is vyavasthit. So you only need to understand the facts. If sometimes your kite takes a plunge, you simply have to pull on its string. You now have control of the string (this is applicable to the one who has received Gnan). But what can a person do if he does not have the control over the string? The control is not in his hands and he is cries out, "My kite is falling, my kite is falling!
You should cease to say anything to anyone in the home. No one can say a word except a Gnani. Why is that? This is because the speech of the Gnani is dependent upon the wishes of the other person. The Gnani speaks for the benefit of the other person. Why would I have the need to speak? The Gnani's speech emanates purely for the purpose
of fulfilling the wishes of others. But when others speak, before they say even a word, there will be so much disruption; so many karmas come to be bound. You should not speak even a word! To utter anything at all, is considered nagging. Speech worthy of being called speech is one that others like to hear, even when that person is reprimanding, people like listening to him. But otherwise before you utter even a word, they tell you to stop nagging and interfering. Reprimanding can only be beneficial if you do so without any prejudice but prejudice is inevitable. Prejudice means to make mental notes, 'Yesterday he did such and such and I had to tell him off. That is so typical of him.' According to God the one who reprimands members of the family, is foolish. It is a sign of going to hell when you hurt anyone.
The Fishing Line And The Bait No other living species, except man exercises his authority as a husband. Nowadays, they file for a divorce! They tell their attorneys, 'I will pay you two thousand rupees, if you get me divorced. The attorney will agree, the foolish man! Why not take a divorce yourself instead of getting one for others?
I will tell you a story of an old lady I knew. As she was preparing for savarni (ritual after the death of a loved one where things dear to the departed one are collected on a bed and given to the priest), she said, 'Your uncle liked to eat this and he also like to eat this...' She carried on this manner as she made her nephew put things on the savarni bed. I told her, "Dear mother, you used to fight with uncle all the time. And sometimes uncle used to beat you too. So why are you doing all this?' She replied, 'Nevertheless, I will never be able to find a husband like your uncle, ever.'
