Life without Conflict

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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Such are the value systems in India!
Who is worthy of being called a husband? It is the one who maintains and upholds the social structure of the marital life. Who is worthy of being called a wife? It is the one who maintains and upholds the same. How can you possibly call them husband and wife when they break and tear away at the structure of the marital life? If you get angry with your wife, is it right for you to break this water pot? Some people even break their chinaware and then go out and buy new ones. You foolish people, if you were going to buy them, why break them in the first place? People lose all sense of what is right and wrong when anger blinds them.
Men become husbands, but a true husband is one whose wife will want to look at his face all day long.
Questioner: They do that before marriage.
Dadashri: Really she is casting a fishing line. The fish thinks this person is very kind and will take care of them. But try biting on that line, the hook on the line will trap you. It is all nothing but entrapment!
Sexual Attraction Is Not Love You can only say you have acquired something worthwhile from those in your home when they feel love towards you and they do not like it when you are away and they look forward to you coming home.
People get married but there is no love. It is only sexual attraction. If there were true love between them, then no matter how much they disagree with each other, their love would not wane. Where there is no true love, it is all simply an attraction. Attraction means excrement! There used to be
so much love in the days gone by, that whenever the husband was away, the wife's chit was completely absorbed in her husband and no one else would come to mind. But today if the husband has been away for two years, she will find a new husband! How can you call this love? This is nothing but excrement! That which flows out is called excrement. In true love, there is giving, not taking.
Love is that which keeps you engrossed and stays on your mind all day long. There are two conclusions in marriage: sometimes it thrives and sometimes it results in destruction. The love that overflows can also ebb. That which overflows is really attraction. So keep your distance from where it overflows. The burning flame of true love is an internal state. Even when the external packing spoils, or decays, the love remains the same. But if the wife burns her hand and asks her husband to help her change the dressing, he will say he cannot bear to look at her hand. The fool! This is the same hand that you were caressing, and now you are repulsed by it? How can you put up with this? Where there is love, there is no repulsion and where there is repulsion, there is no love. Even the worldly love needs to be without big swings of rise and ebb. It should be within normality. The Gnani's love never increases or decreases. The Gnani's love is very unique; it is considered the love of the Absolute Soul.
Normality Worth Learning Questioner: What is the definition of normality in this worldly life?
Dadashri: If everyone tells you that you wake up late, should you not understand that you are not within