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life without Conflict
life without Conflict
'What is to become of me?' then he is doomed. In this day and age people have become confused.
A Bolt With Crooked Threads Questioner: I try very hard to adjust with my wife, but I am not able to.
Dadashri: Everything in life is a repayment. When the threads of a bolt are crooked, how is it possible to fit a bolt with straight threads into it? You may ask yourself, 'Why is the woman like this?' But the woman is really your counter weight. Her awkwardness is in proportion to the degree of your faults. So this is all vyavasthit, do I not tell you this?
Questioner: It seems that everyone has come to sort me out and shape me up!
Dadashri: You need to shape up. The world cannot function without people shaping up, can it? If you do not shape up, how will you become a father? Shape up and then you can become a father.
Woman's Divine Energy That is why women are not at fault, women have the energies of divine beings. There is a soul in women and men, but only the outer packing is different. The differences lie only in the packing. A woman is an effect of a kind; this effect has an effect on the soul within. This effect must not affect you. Women represent energy. Women have done well in high position in government in India. If a woman were to devote herself towards religion and spirituality, she has the power and energy to do salvation for the entire world. She will accomplish her own salvation and has the power do the same for the whole world.
Pratikraman: The Master Key Questioner: Some men run away from home because they have had enough of their wives. What is all that about?
Dadashri: No, why should men run away? We are the supreme soul, why must we have the need to become a runaway? We have to settle and discharge matters with equanimity.
Questioner: How can we settle with equanimity? Should we accept in our mind that severe conflict we face are from our previous life?
Dadashri: You cannot discharge your karmas by doing only that. By discharge we mean that you should make a connection with the other person and notify the soul within him. Admit to the soul within that person that you have made many mistakes. You have to do significant pratikramans.
Questioner: If the other person insults me, do I still have to do his pratikraman?
Dadashri: You have to do pratikraman only if he insults you, not if he treats you with respect. If you do pratikraman, you will not have any feelings of abhorrence towards him. Furthermore, he will be aware of the positive vibrations from your pratikraman. The first step is that there are no feelings of abhorrence towards him but the second step is that the other person becomes aware of this.
Questioner: It really reaches his soul?
Dadashri: Yes, it reaches for sure. The soul then tells him, there has been a call for you. Our pratikramans are for acts of aggression, not for routine mundane activities.
