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125 and ask him why he has objections. He will tell me, 'The other day you said you were not going to leave until such and such date, so how come you are leaving early?' I would clear the air with him and explain to him that I have no choice but leave as certain matters have come up. He would then willingly say, 'Then please go. I have no objection.'
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It is like this, if you are able to forget the fact that you are older, then you will be able to accomplish your task. If you become like a child, you will be able to resolve matters with equanimity very nicely. I am like a child, and that is why I tell it like it is. I may say one thing or another. What use is there in exercising seniority?
Those who are faced with trials and tribulations are blessed, so deal with your problems and do not become stubborn. You should expose your fault by stating so directly and openly. And if the other person is blaming you, then you should be happy and tell them you are glad that they discovered your mistake.
People wave red flags at you because of your mistakes, but if you take the trouble to clear up the air, then no one will object. Instead, when people raise a red flag, you start ranting and raving, 'You idiot! Why are you behaving this way? What is your problem? This is how you attack them. You do not realize that you are creating a whole new problem. When someone waves a red flag at you, understand there is something wrong otherwise no one would do so. How Can You Afford To Have Altercations Everyday?
Red Flag : Green Flag There must be some mistake on your part, which is why the other person is pointing it out, so destroy your mistakes. No one is able to harass anyone in this world; that is how independent the whole world is. And whatever trials and tribulations you have to face is because of your own past misdeeds, your own karmas. Destroy your mistakes and you will not have to deal with any more accounts.
If someone raises a red flag at you, you must understand that you are at fault somewhere, so ask the other person why he is raising the red flag. When he tells you your mistake, you should ask for his forgiveness and ask him if he would wave a green flag at you from now on and he will say yes.
Dadashri: Do you have quarrels in your home? Questioner: Yes.
Dadashri: Are your quarrels mild or do you truly fight with each other?
Questioner: Sometimes we truly fight but we forget about it the next day.
Dadashri: What else would you do if not forget? It is only when you forget that you quarrel again. Who would quarrel again if he did not forget? People live in big bungalows and there are only five people in it and yet they fight. Nature gives them food and shelter and even then people quarrel. People are only good at fighting and quarreling.
No one holds a red flag in front of me. I do not proceed until I see green flags from everyone. If I am leaving to go elsewhere and someone raises a red flag at me, I will stop
