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reactions. What are you going to improve there? When your own prakruti does not improve, how are you going to improve someone else's prakruti? You yourself are a top (spinning toy) and in the same token so is everyone else; everyone is under the control of his or her own prakruti because they have not become a Purush (Self-realized) yet. Only after one becomes a Purush can real effort (purushartha) begin. Here, in the world, no one has seen real effort at all.
Your Worldly Life Solved by Adjusting
Questioner: Surely adjustments cannot just be onesided if we are to live and continue our worldly interactions in this world?
renounce without consideration of the complete situation at hand are considered as being awkward. If there is a need on your part, then you must appease the other person even when he is being awkward. If you are at a railway station and need a porter, you will somehow have to appease the porter even if it means giving him a few extra rupees; otherwise you will have to carry your luggage yourself.
Do not see laws, please settle. Where is the time to tell people, 'Do it this way' or 'Do it that way"? The other person may make hundreds of mistakes but just tell yourself that the mistake is your own and move on. Is there any point in looking at the law in this day and age? Everything has come to a head here, and very difficult times are coming ahead. Everywhere you look, people are running around, from one place to another. People have become entangled in a trap: at home the wife and children complain, at work the boss complains, and when traveling by train, we get pushed around in the crowd; there is no peace anywhere. Surely we need some peace? If someone fights with you, you should sympathize with him and try to understand how agitated he has been to become so much anger. To become agitated is to become weak.
Dadashri: Proper worldly interactions are where you adjust so that even your neighbors will say, 'Every household has conflicts but not this one. It is then that your interactions are considered the best. You have to cultivate your inner energies in situations where you cannot get along with a person; your strength is already evident in situations where you get along with other person. Inability to get along is a weakness. Why do I get along with everyone? Your energies will grow in proportion with the amount of adjustments you make; your weakness will break by that much. Real understanding will set in when all other worldly understanding is locked out.
The Gnani will adjust even with a person who is being awkward. If you observe the Gnani and conduct yourself accordingly, you will learn how to adjust everywhere. The science behind this tells you to become vitarag, free from attachment and abhorrence. You take a beating because you have subtle attachment within. People who reject and
Questioner: Often I have to adjust with two people at a time over just one issue. How can I deal with situations like that?
Dadashri: You'll be able to do so with both of them. You can even do that with seven people at a time. If one of them asks, 'What about me, what will you do for me?' you can tell him, 'Yes I will do as you ask.' You can say the same to yet another person. Nothing is going to work outside of what is vyavasthit, so avoid conflict under any circumstance.
