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and fifty rupees, you should give her extra twenty-five rupees. She will be happy for six more months. You have to understand life as it is. You men do not know how to live life and yet you go in search of a wife. You become a husband without qualifications. You must have the certificate for becoming a husband before you earn the right to become a father. Here you men become fathers without qualifications and on top of that you become grandfathers! When will you wind up everything your worldly life)? You have to understand.
In the Relative World Keep Mending
These are all relative relationships: if they were real, then it would be worth your while insisting that you won't rest until your wife changes or improves. But it is all relative. Relative means if the husband and wife were to fight with each other for one hour, they would start thinking about a divorce and this seed will grow into a big tree. If you have a need for a wife, then even if she keeps tearing away at the relationship, you will have to keep mending it. Only then will this relative relationship will last otherwise it will break. Your relationship with your father is r believe their relationships with their fathers to be real; they become obstinate about trying to improve him. Let go you fools! He will die before he improves; instead why not just take care of the poor man so he will not bind revenge with you before he dies. Why not let him die peacefully? His stubbornness is his own responsibility. He will have to bear the weight of his horns. Some people have horns twenty feet long but you should not carry the weight, should you?
You have to fulfill your obligations but you do not have to become uncompromising and adamant in the process.
Bring about a quick solution. However, if the other person keeps fighting with you, you can tell him, 'I have always been dumb. I do not know what to do.' Detach yourself from people in anyway that you can and do not worry about him or her taking control and dominating you. What can anyone do to you? No one has the power to do so. People are dictated by their own karmas, so no matter what, live each day without any conflict and worry about tomorrow when it comes. And if there is a conflict the next day, do the best you can to bring about a resolution. This is how you should pass your days.
Futility In Trying To Improve Others
If you adjust to the other person in every matter, your life will become very smooth. What are you going to take with you when you die? And if someone tells you, 'Straighten your wife out,' and you try to do that, you will become 'twisted in the process. Whatever your wife may be like, accept the situation a being correct. If your relationship with her were eternal, then it would be a different matter. But she is your wife for this life only. You both will die at different times and you both have different karmas. There is nothing to give or take here. Who knows whose home she will go to after this life? You may end up improving her, but she will end up as someone else's wife.
Questioner: If I bind karma with her, surely we will get together in our next life.
Dadashri: Yes you may get together, but in some other way. She may come to your house to visit as someone else's wife. There are principles to the laws of Karma, are there not? And here there is no guarantee. Some people with a lot
