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life without Conflict
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go out in search of a bride. In the times before, the father of the bride would host a svayamvar (gathering of eligible men invited to present themselves at the bride-to-be's house.) The svayamvar would be attended by a hundred or so fools out of whom the bride would choose one. If this is the process one has to undergo in order to get married, then it is better not to marry. All the fools would line up and the bride would come down with a garland. All the fools would stand there with thousands of expectations and extended necks! This is how the women chose their husbands. Instead it would be better not to be born at all. Today these fools insult the girls and take their revenge.
Commonsense Will Bring About a Solution
I am not telling everyone to seek liberation but I am telling everyone to learn the art of living. Learn some commonsense from others. Big wealthy businessmen tell me they already have commonsense. I told one, 'If you had commonsense, you would not be in the predicament you are in. You are a dunce! He then asked me, 'What do you mean by common sense?' I replied, 'Commonsense is knowledge that is applicable everywhere, both theoretically as well as practically. No matter how old and rusty a padlock may be, but the moment you turn the key, it will open immediately, that is commonsense. But you cannot open your locks and so you fight and break your locks with a huge hammer.
Do you have differences of opinions? What does it mean to have differences of opinions? If you do not know how to open the lock, from where will you obtain the commonsense to do so? If you do not have commonsense worth of 360 degrees, you should at least have the commonsense worth 30-50 degrees! At least keep this much
in your awareness. If you catch on to one good thought or idea and hang on to it, it will make you more aware, which in turn will plant the seeds for more good thoughts and then the process of positive thinking will start. But instead the wealthy businessmen are only consumed with thoughts of making money and so I tell them, 'Sheth you are running after money but your household is falling apart, your wife and your children are running around all day. The sheth (businessman) then asked me, 'So what should I do?' I told him he has to understand how to live life. Do not make money your only pursuit in life. Take care of the dirt in all corners of your home. Do not clean just one corner. Take care of your health or else you will have a heart attack. You have to take care of your money, your health, your children and your wife. You have to clean all the corners of your house. What happens when you tend to just one corner? How can you live your life the way you do right now?
A man with commonsense will not allow any conflict to take place in his home. How can you acquire commonsense? When you sit with the Gnani and remain at his feet and attain Gnan from him, you will acquire commonsense. A person with commonsense will not let any conflicts and quarrels occur within or outside his home. How many such households are there in Bombay? How can there be any commonsense where there are conflicts?
If your wife tells you, 'It is daytime, and you tell her, 'No, it is nighttime,' and start arguing, where will it all lead and when will it ever come to an end? Instead you can tell her quietly, 'I am requesting you to please go and check for yourself that it is night'. If she still insists it is daytime, then you can say, 'Yes, you are correct. I made a mistake. Only
