Life without Conflict

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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then will you make any progress. Otherwise you will never resolve anything. Everyone, including the wife is a passerby.
Even The Body Betrays You In The End
All your relationships are relative; there is no real relationship anywhere. Even your body is relative. This body too is a betrayal. How many relations are there of this betrayer, the body? You take care of this body everyday, you bathe it, you groom it and when you get a stomach, even if you tell it not to ache, it will. When one of your teeth start to hurt, it will make you cry. You brush them everyday for so many years and still they let you down. So everything is a betrayal.
If you do not secure your liberation having been born a human in the land of India and in a family of high cultural values, then you are doomed! Everything you do will go down the drain.
Multiple Solutions For The Husband
speak with your wife?' he will say, 'My wife is really bad, she is completely uncultured.' And if you tell his wife, 'Your husband is a very good man,' she will say, 'Do not mention his name to me, he is rotten. Now when you hear such things, can you not figure out that this whole world is empty and without any substance? There is no correctness in it.
If the wife buys expensive vegetables, the foolish husband will pounce on her, "How can you buy such expensive vegetables? She will accuse him of attacking her and will retaliate with double the force. How can anyone resolve such problems? If your wife buys expensive vegetables, you should say, 'Well done! I am very fortunate because a miser like me would never be able to enjoy such expensive vegetables.
I was invited to stay at someone's house one day. I observed resentment in his wife as she served him tea; as she shoved a cup of tea in front of him. I understood immediately that the two must have had a disagreement. I called his wife over and asked her why she was sulking. She said, 'It's nothing like that.' I told her, 'I know what's bothering you. Why are you hiding things from me? When you shoved the teacup in front of him, even your husband understood. Let go of this deceit (kapat) if you want to be happy.'
Men are naive and they tend to forgive easily but women on the other hand hold on to the events; words their husbands said to them will remain fresh forty years later. Therefore, you must be cautious when you interact with women. Exercise caution when you want some work done through them. Women will get their work done through you, but you men do not know how to do the same with them.
If your wife wants to buy a saree worth one hundred
It is fine if people do not want liberation but everyone needs commonsense. People have conflict in their homes because of lack of commonsense. Not everyone trades in the black market do they? Nevertheless people are still so unhappy. In a home of just three people there will be countless disagreements and differences of opinions. What happiness can there be in this? Then people live in their own stubborn and insensitive ways. Of what use is life if you do not have any self-respect? A judge comes home after imposing a sevenyear jail sentence and yet at home his case of conflict with his wife remains pending for fifteen days. He does not speak with his wife. If you ask the judge, 'Sir why do you not