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them, you are nothing but a shameless beast. Why don't you let her loose and then beat her? She'll hit you back or she will run away. How can you ever call it a noble act if you beat someone who is absolutely helpless? These are the acts of spineless cowards! You can never hurt anyone in your household; only those who have no understanding will do
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If You Complain, You Are At Fault
Questioner: Dada, who will listen to my complaints?
Dadashri: If you complain, you become the complainer. I regard anyone that comes complaining to me as being the culprit. Why is it that you even have an occasion to complain in the first place? Very often people who complain are culprits themselves. If you complain, you are the culprit and the person you accuse will become the plaintiff, he will now have a complaint against you. So never complain about anyone.
Questioner: So what should I do?
Dadashri: If the other person appears wrong to you, you have to tell yourself, 'He is the nicest man and I am the one at fault.' If you have multiplied your negative opinions about him, then you have to divide them and if you have divided, then you should multiply equally.
I am teaching you to multiply and divide in order to bring all your worldly accounts to a close. If the other person is dividing then you should multiply in order to zero out the account. If you keep accusing the other person in your mind, 'He did this to me and he did that to me', then that in itself is a fault on your part. If you are walking along and bump
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into a wall, why do you not get angry at the wall and blame the wall? Why do we call trees inanimate? Anyone that hurts you is like a tree! If a cow treads on your foot, do you complain about it? So it is the same when people clash with you. Why does the Gnani Purush forgive everyone? It is because he knows that people are like the trees; some do not have the understanding. Those who do understand do not need to be told anything; they immediately do pratikraman.
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You should never see any faults in the other person, because when you do you ruin your worldly life. You have to keep seeing your own faults. You have to understand and accept that everything you encounter in this life is the effect of your own past actions, so no more needs to be said.
Some families make accusations against each other, 'You are like this, you are that', even as they share their meals and life together. This is how accounts of revenge are created and this is what perpetuates the worldly life. That is why I tell you to settle all claims with equanimity; when you do, stop all vengeance.
Worldly Happiness You Indulge In Entraps You Even Deeper
What sweetness is there in this world? Is there any worldly sweetness that lasts? If you eat too much of, you will get an indigestion and if you eat a little, it will leave you craving for more. Happiness should be such that it never makes you uneasy. Behold the bliss Dada experiences, bliss eternal!
People get married to be happy but on the contrary they feel even more suffocation after doing so. People get married with the expectation of finding a companion who
