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life without Conflict
life without Conflict
to the other two who are constantly doing something wrong. The father this so as a result of the causes (karmic accounts) from their past lives.
Have No Expectations From Children
Questioner: Why do parents use the word 'chiranjivi' (Long live) to address their children?
Dadashri: If they do not write chiranjivi, then some other word will creep in. Do parents not have a desire to see their son grow up to be a happy man before they die? Nevertheless there is also an expectation that he will take care of them when they get old. Why do people grow mango trees? To eat the mangos! But let me tell you what kind of a mango tree, the children of today are. They will bear only two mangos of their own and will ask their parents for two more! Therefore do not have any expectations from them.
A man came to me one day and said that his son had asked him whether he should send him a hundred rupees every month. He said he told his son, 'Son I do not need your Basmati rice (luxury food), I get a crop of millet (basic simple food) that sustains me. Now why would I start such new business of this kind? I am satisfied with what I have.'
Be A Friend Questioner: Should we think of our children as our guests?
Dadashri: There is no need to do that. There is one way to improve your children; be a friend to them. I adopted this behavior at a very young age. I have maintained friendships with the young and the old. Nurture a friendship with your children. Children are looking for love but they do
not find that love. Then they suffer in silence, they can neither talk to anyone nor can they bear the suffering. I have a solution for the troubled youngsters of today. I have directions as to how to guide them. The love, which has manifested within me, is such that it will neither increase nor decrease. That which increases or decreases is not love, but infatuation. That which does not increase or decrease is pure love. Everyone will surrender to such love. I do not want to control anyone and yet everyone surrenders to this love. I am merely instrumental in the process.
The Dawn Of Religion Questioner: Why is religion declining in this new generation?
Dadashri: Religion has already deteriorated. There is nothing left to deteriorate. Now there is a rise in religion. A new beginning comes only after a decline. Just as there is ebb and tide in the ocean, this world too operates on the principle of ebb and tide. Man cannot survive without religion. Other than religion, what other support does man have?
Children are mirrors, they reflect the mistakes that lie within the parents.
A father cannot sleep at night, worrying about his son but his son sleeps peacefully. Here, the fault lies with the father. I told one such father, 'You are the one at fault in this. You had spoilt your child in the past life and that too for your personal gain.' This fact is worth understanding. What can a child do if he is born to an uncertified father and mother? Men become fathers at the age of twenty or twentyfive. Their own fathers complain about them and yet they become fathers without any certification. How can you blame
