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life without Conflict
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everywhere,' and then continue to do so. If your wife says, "You are a thief, then tell her, 'You are correct.' Then after a while if she says, 'No you have not stolen anything, then again tell her, 'You are correct.'
The reality is that your entire life span is equivalent to just one day of Brahma (Creator in Hindu mythology). If you are to live just one day of Brahma, then why create all this commotion? If you were to live a hundred years of Brahma, then it is understandable if you question why you should have to adjust. On the contrary you can challenge your opponents to file claims against you. But we are talking about just one day of Brahma and so you have to resolve everything in a short time. If you have to accomplish a task in a short time, what must you do? Resolve it quickly by adjusting otherwise will it not drag on?
When you fight with your wife, are you able to sleep well at night? No and the next morning you do not even get a good breakfast.
I have made a very subtle discovery of this worldly life. I am telling you everything having discovered the ultimate truth. I will show you the way to live your daily life and I will also show you how to achieve liberation. My only intent is to minimize your difficulties.
Become A 'Useless Coin
have to settle matters with equanimity. At home, live with your wife as her friend and she has to live as yours. No one cares who is in control, whether it is you or her, and neither is it recorded anywhere on the government books. God does not care either. Are you concerned about control or your meals? Therefore figure out what is the best way to get your meals. I admit that I too, would not adjust if someone were keeping track of who was in control, but in reality, nobody cares.
If your feet are hurting and your wife is massaging them and someone comes along and happens to witness this, he will say, 'Wow! You really are the boss at home, you should reply, 'No, she is the one with control,' because if you say you are in control, she will stop massaging!
Questioner: Is that not flattering her?
Dadashri: No this is the right way; all other ways are crooked and wrong. In the current time cycle, this is a different way to be happy. What I am telling you is applicable to only to the current time cycle. Why should you ruin your breakfast and your meals for the entire day?
Do Not Provoke A Reaction
You should not enforce your control at home. Those who do will have to wander around life after life. I had told Hiraba that I was a useless coin. Why? I cannot afford to wander life after life. Where does a useless coin end up? He simply has to sit next to God. If you try to exercise control at home, will conflicts not arise? From now on you simply
Questioner: By the afternoon we forget our morning conflicts and the same thing starts over again in the evening.
Dadashri: Yes, I know this. I have the understanding and the knowledge of the power that causes conflicts to arise. I know the power that makes us say the wrong things and the adjustments we take after that. It is possible to understand everything through Gnan, and having said that, we must adjust to this world. Everything in this world
