Life without Conflict

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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life without Conflict
life without Conflict
If you hurt a woman's pride, she will never forget it; she will remember it for the rest of her life. The feelings of hurt and resentment will remain alive up until her funeral. If women could forget their hurt, this world would have come to an end. So beware of the fact that they cannot forget. You have to be cautious about everything you do.
She has never been needled before so she immediately jolts up in a standing position, throwing the fool to the ground. Then the fool complains to everyone that the horse threw him off. To whom, can the mare defend herself? If you do not know how to sit on her, whose fault is it, yours or hers? The mare too understands the moment he mounts her, that some untamed animal is getting on and that he does not know how to sit. The women of India are noble and respectable. If you do not know how to deal with them, then naturally they are going to throw you off. If a husband goes against his wife just once, he will lose all his worthiness. Your household is running smoothly, the children are studying well, and there are no problems, but even then you find faults and complain; you become cantankerous without any reason. When you do this your wife immediately assesses your intellect and will realize that you have no substance.
Even if you are not worthy of riding the mare, if you stroke her gently, she will give you her affection. If you can overlook many of your wife's shortcomings or mistakes, then she will be impressed with you. But instead you accuse her of making mistakes when she makes none. Many men complain about issues regarding women's responsibilities and chores, it is all unnecessary. Many bosses are such that they interfere in the clerk's business; the clerks are aware that their boss is mediocre and has no substance but what can anyone do? His merit karma has made him a boss but at home he has unresolved quarrels with his wife every fortnight. If someone asks him why he has problems with his wife, he will say. 'She has no commonsense, and yet his intellect is such that no one will pay even a dime for it! If we ask his wife, she will say, 'What is there to talk about? There is nothing in him worth talking about.'
You have heard the term 'stri charitra' (female behavior) however it is not something that can be understood. What is more, women are also referred to as divine beings. It means that if you regard her as a divine, you will become divine. Otherwise you remain like a rooster or an elephant. Here comes Mr. Rooster and Mr. Elephant! You men do not want to become like Lord Rama but you look for a Sita (ideal woman) in your home! You foolish men, Lord Rama would not even employ you! Nevertheless you are not to be blamed. You just do not know how to deal with women. You businessmen do not even know how to deal with your customers. That is why employing sales people is a great practice. If you employ a salesman who is good looking and clever, people will even pay a little extra. In the same way you men should know how to interact with women. On the one hand you need to regard her as divine and on the other hand you need to understand her conduct; love in one eye and sternness in the other. Only then will you be able to maintain a balance. If you regard her as divine and put her on a pedestal, she will be led astray, so maintain a balance.
Departments: Husband's & Wife's
Men should not interfere in women's affairs and the woman should not interfere in the affairs of men. Each should remain confined to his or her own departments.