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get married? Go ahead and get married, it is perfectly fine to do so. Dada has no objection to that but the problem is with your incorrect and incomplete understanding. What I am saying is you can do everything, but at least understand the reality of this world.
Emperor Bharat had thirteen hundred queens! He spent his entire life with them and yet attained liberation in the same lifetime. Thirteen hundred wives! So all you have to do is understand the matter. Live your worldly life with an understanding. You do not have to become an ascetic. If you do not understand, then become a hermit and live in isolation. Otherwise a hermit's life is only meant for the one who cannot get along with a woman; it is an exercise to test one's will power to see if he can stay away from women.
The worldly life is an examination; it is a test. You are being tested in it, and you have to pass the test. When even iron has to be tested as a metal, is it any different for achieving moksha?
You cannot afford to remain in this illusion. It is because of this illusion (moha; maya) that you perceive the world the way you do. This is why you suffer. Imagine the state of Emperor Bharat having to deal with thirteen hundred wives! Even when there is just one queen at home she creates such a scene, so just imagine what it would be like with thirteen hundred of them! Alas even with one queen; wife, life is a challenge; you can never win! Once you have a difference of opinion, you are stuck! Bharat had to tolerate thirteen hundred of them. As he passed through the queens' palaces, fifty of them would be smiling. And many of them were plotting against him. Their jealousy towards other queens drove them to plot against the emperor Bharat; all this to take
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revenge on the Emperor's current favorite queen. Their hatred was for the queen yet they plot against the King. It is of no consequence to them that they too will become widows but they will make sure to make the favorite queen a widow!
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I can see very clearly the scenario of Emperor Bharat and his queens. How the queens were sulking; how the king agonized worrying. I can see it all. On the other hand if one queen were married to thirteen hundred kings, the kings would not have sulking faces. Men do not know how to sulk.
Accusations - How Hurtful They Are!
Everything is ready and at hand but people just do not know how to enjoy it. They do not know the art of enjoyment. As the wealthy businessmen sit to dine at their enormous dinning table, they complain and fight with their wives. They complain the wives do not let them be at peace and that they nag for no reason. Little do they realize that no one can bother anyone else without a reason and a past cause. If someone does bother them, it is well within the laws of nature. People burn wood but will they burn any furniture made of wood? They only burn that which is meant to burn. And yet people go around making such accusations. They have no clue. The human quality is lost. How can anyone accuse members of his own family? People of past time cycle never accused each other, even when they had a cause to. They would first think about the hurt they would inflict through their accusations. But today in the Kaliyug, people scheme to get even. How can it be acceptable to have conflict in one's own home?
The Liability is Your Own When You Clash. Questioner: What is the reason behind differences in
