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Attachment: Moha
A man of reputation looks wonderful even when he walks around without clothes. People today do not look good even when they wear good clothes. A man looks like a bull even in a suit and a tie. He thinks he is someone special. He does not even accept other people's opinion. He doesn't even ask his wife if he looks good in a suit and a tie. He looks in the mirror and decides, 'It looks good, it looks good. The wife does the same thing as she looks at herself and moves her head in the mirror. What is all this? What kind of a life is this? You are God so what is all this nonsense? The real you is God.
Women wear rings in their ears, but can they even to see them? They wear diamonds in their ears to show others. They are trapped in worldly entanglement and yet they go around showing off their diamonds. Alas can someone trapped in a web of entanglement afford to have desires? Why do you not get out of it and find a solution as fast as you can? You can wear your earrings if your husband asks you. If a man buys a pair of earring worth two thousand rupees, but the bill shows thirty-five thousand rupees, his wife will be very flattered. But what is the point when she cannot even see them when she wears them? I asked one such lady, 'Can you see the earrings in your sleep at night? This is all projected and imagined happiness. People have a wrong belief about what happiness is and that is why they have no inner peace. Whom can you call a woman of India? A woman of India is one who will wear a two thousand-rupee sari while sitting at home. But when a couple goes shopping, the wife sees an embroidered sari worth one thousand rupees in the
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window. This sari has such a hold over her that even when she goes home, she is in a foul mood and picks a fight with everyone. How can you call someone like her a woman of India?
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Hindu Husbands Are Weak
Hindus by their very nature have a propensity towards conflict. That is why it is said that Hindus spend their lives in conflict. Muslims on the other hand, are smart. They fight outside of their homes but they will not fight with their wives at home. Some Muslims however, have become like the Hindus by living with them, but to me, in these matters, the Muslims are still better than the Hindus. Some Muslim men pamper their wives a lot. As a contractor, I used to visit many Muslim homes and have tea with them. I did not have any prejudices. One day I visited one such home and to my surprise the man started to push the swing on which his wife was sitting. So I asked him, 'Does she not take advantage of you when you pamper her this way?' he replied, 'How is she going to take advantage of me? She does not have any weapon to do so.' I told him, 'Our Hindu men do nothing of the sort because they are afraid their wives will take advantage of them.' He asked me if I knew why he was pampering his wife. He told me, "We do not have a bungalow; we have only these two rooms to live in, so if I fight with my wife, where would I go to sleep? My whole night would be ruined. So I just fight with everyone outside the home but with my wife, I keep everything clear.' If he comes home empty-handed when the wife had asked him to buy some meat, he promptly tells he will buy some the next day. Then the next morning he tells her, "I promise I will get some meat today from wherever I can," and yet he returns
