Life without Conflict

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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look at the human beings in his own home. I told him that his home was a beautiful garden. In the past time cycles of Satyug, Dwaparyug and Tretayug, people's homes were like farms. Some farms had nothing but roses; in other farms there were nothing but carnations, and other farms had nothing but jasmine. In the present time cycle of Kaliyug, the farms have disappeared and are replaced by gardens in which you will find all kinds of flowers. You as a head of the household are a rose, but you also expect everyone else in your home to be like a rose. You tell others in your home, 'You are not like me. You are a carnation. Why is your color white? I want you to bloom and smell like me.' This is how you keep beating them down. You foolish people! At least learn to recognize the different flowers. You only have to recognize and understand each prakruti. What kind of a flower is this? You should continue to watch each plant until it bears flowers and fruits to see what kind of a plant it is. Just observe the differences 'I have thorns, but he does not. I am a rose plant and he is not.' And when the buds on the plant bloom into flowers, you will realize, 'Wow! This is a jasmine plant!' Therefore interact with that plant with this information in mind. You have to behave according to the other person's prakruti. In the past, everyone in the family, the wife and the children behaved according to the commands of the eldest man of the household, whereas today in Kaliyug, everyone's prakruti is different and incompatible with each other. That is why, in the current times it is necessary for you to adjust with each person's prakruti in your home in order to get your work done. If you do not, you will ruin your relationships. Become a gardener and take care of your garden. Your wife's prakruti is different; your son's and daughter's prakrutis are different. Take advantage of each prakruti. All relationships
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are relative, including the one you have with your wife. This body of yours too, is relative. Relative means they will leave you if you if you spoil your relation with them.
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The power to change anyone is non-existent in this day and age and therefore you should not expect any changes to occur. You can improve others only if there is unity between your mind, body and speech. People will improve only if whatever is in the mind is expressed precisely through the speech and conduct. Today, this is not so. Bring normality - act according to what the situation calls for when you deal with everyone at home.
What Is There To Become So Captivated About?
Many grandfathers are thrilled when their grandchildren call them, 'Grandpa.' If they do not call them 'grandpa,' are they going to call them uncle'? They may call them 'Grandpa,' but they understand from within, that 'Grandpa' is going to die some time soon. Grandpas are mangos that have gone bad and need to be discarded. And yet the grandfather finds it thrilling to be a grandpa. Alas! This is what the world is like. When a child speaks in a baby talk, 'Daddy, come daddy, Mommy is calling you for tea,' the father becomes titillated from within, just like a happy bull! He feels he is the only father in the world. Who does he thinks he is! Let go of this madness! Even dogs, cats and the donkeys are fathers; tell me who is not a father! All conflicts in the world is because of this only.
A man is truly worthy of being glorified if after discovering the reality of life, he decides he does not want to become a father, otherwise many men become daddies, do they not? If the boss reprimands him at work, when he comes