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of their attachment.
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Resolve Everything in this Very Life Time
Vyavasthit runs everything in this world. Therefore there is no need to say anything. The only thing worth pursuing and acquiring is your own religion, the Self. You used to think that you were the doer, but now you must erase out that belief. You are no longer the doer, are you? You do not have to run anything, do you? Everyone is a 'top' that spins as dictated by his or her own karma (the winding of karma of past life are dissipating in this life, just as a top dissipates energy as it spins). Let go of all the suffering! Glasses may break, the soup may boil over, the wife may scold the children but you should just look the other way and sit down comfortably. They can only accuse you of not saying anything if they see you paying attention to everything. If nothing else, just turn the rosary. If they see you doing that, they will not bother you. Besides what have you to do with all of that anyway? Nagging is fine if you are going to live forever, otherwise it is not worth saying anything. Even cows talk to their off-springs politely but they do not talk excessively, whereas humans keep nagging until they die. Those who nag are foolish; they destroy their homes (family). When can there be an end to all this? For endless lives you have wandered about the worldly life without doing any good for yourself or others. Only the one who has done well for himself, by being free from attachment, can do the same for others.
Why Invite Unnecessary Suffering?
If your child is sick, nurse and take care of him the best you can, but do it in a superficial manner. How should
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you relate to your children? Relate to them as though they are your stepchildren! As a mother, you can say, 'my children' and the children can say 'my mother,' but from within, the bond should not run deep. Therefore, in this current time cycle, keep your relationship with your children like they are your stepchildren, otherwise you will be doomed. Children are not the ones who will take you to moksha. Your children will become wise, if you become wise yourself. Is excessive affection a thing to be given to children? These children, for whom you have so much affection, are the very people who will stab you. Affection and attachment will turn into abhorrence. You should live as if you are being forced to love them. On the surface you can say, 'I love you,' but from within you should know you are showing this love because you have to, and that this relationship is not real. You will realize exactly what this true relationship with your son is all about if you hit and reprimand him for one hour. If he were truly your son, then even after the beating, he would get down on his knees and tell you, 'Dad, your hand must be hurting a lot after the beating.' If he says that, then your relationship is real. But if you were to rebuke him for just an hour, he would stand up to you and hit you. You are attracted to your children because of your attachment (moha). A real son is one who would willingly enter the funeral pyre with his father. Has any son ever done that?
All of your suffering comes because you take it upon yourself. Your children do not ask you to shower your affection on them, but fathers themselves are guilty of doing this. The fault is entirely yours. You have to carry out all your responsibilities and duties as a father. One father was hugging his child so hard that the child bit him. The real Self cannot be anyone's son or a father. In this Kaliyug, your children
