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life without Conflict
life without Conflict
when you irritate human beings? They too will bite. So do not irritate them.
after that you should let go. Do cows not do the same to their young also? You need to guide and correct your child until the age of five, after that you cannot correct him. And after the age of twenty, his wife will improve him. You do not have to do that.
You have to be superficial in your relationship with your child. In reality no one belongs to you. Your child is yours only through a physical relation with your body. Will any one of the children come with you when you are being cremated? Those who become attached to their children and think their children belong to them will suffer a lot. Your feeling of 'mine' will be of no help to you. Children are yours from the worldly relative view. If the child is hurt, you should give him medical attention and treatment, but do you have to cry in the process?
Is a woman likely to lactate for her stepchild? No, so keep the same relationship with your own children. This current time cycle is that of the Kaliyug (age of quarrel and destruction). All relationships are relative. Keep relative as relative. Do not consider them as real. If your relationship with your son were real, then you could tell him to leave your home until he improves. But these relationships are all relative and so you must adjust everywhere. You have not come here in this world to improve anyone. You are here to free yourself from the bondage of karma. Instead of trying to improve others, just maintain a positive inner intent. Only a Gnani Purush, who is faultless, can improve others, so take your children to him. Why do they become spoilt? They become spoilt because of your meddling. Interference and meddling is the cause that ruins everything in the world. Even this dog will bite you, if you irritate it. What happens
There is infinite Scriptural knowledge in every word I speak. If a person understands these words and acts accordingly, he will achieve salvation. This science is such that you will have to take only one more birth before achieving liberation! You will forego hundreds of thousands of rebirths. With this science you will get rid of all your attachment and abhorrence and will become vitarag (void of attachment). When you achieve a state of aguru-lagu (balanced state of the Self) there will be endless advantage of this science.
Give Advice Only As a Last Resort If you become free of your intellect (abuddha) like me, then your spiritual work is done. The moment you use your intellect, the world will emerge in front of you. At home you should speak and answer only when they ask you something. And when they do ask you for your opinion, keep a resolve within that it would be better if they did not ask you anything. If they do not ask you anything, then you would not be required to use your intellect.
All traditional values in the world are gone, there is a tremendous influence of the current time cycle on people and all moral and honorable values have completely disintegrated. No one has the ability to make others understand anything. If a father says something to his son, the son will say, 'I do not want any advice from you.' Why are your children not ready to listen to what you have to say? It's because what you say is not the truth. Would they not listen if it were the truth? Parents give advice because of their attachment. They ruin their own future births because
