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life without Conflict
life without Conflict
Silence Is A Powerful Weapon In the current times there is nothing better than speaking as little as possible. Today the words that come out hurt people like rocks. This goes for everyone, therefore it is better to say as little as possible. It is not worth saying or telling anyone, anything. On the contrary you make things worse by your words. If you tell someone not to be late for the train, he will end up being late and if you do not say a word, he will be on time. Everything works fine if you remain silent. Your words are nothing but ego. Children will start to improve from the day you stop nagging them. The words you utter are not helpful and that is why they agitate them. Children do not accept your words and that is why your words bounce back. You should carry out your duties of providing food and shelter for your children and fulfill all your obligations; nothing else is worth doing or saying. Do you understand that you will not gain anything by telling them anything? The children are grown up now. Are they likely to fall down the stairs now? Why are you neglecting your own spiritual welfare? Your duty towards children is a relative duty. It is not worth interfering in it. Instead of bickering it would better if you just remain silent. You ruin your mind and the minds of others by bickering.
Questioner: Children do not understand their responsibilities.
Dadashri: The responsibility lies in the hands of vyavasthit. Children are aware of their responsibilities but because you do not know how to communicate with them, you make a mess of things. Your recommendations are only correct if the children follow them. If parents talk nonsense, children's behavior will be senseless too.
Questioner: Children talk back rudely.
Dadashri: Yes, but how will you stop them? If you stop talking back to them, they will too, and all unnecessary hurtful words will cease. Only then will everyone benefit.
Once a disagreement occurs with someone, a link of prejudices is created causing negative opinions about you. You must simply remain silent and try to have faith in him. Nothing improves by nagging. Improvement comes only through the words of a Gnani. Parents have tremendous responsibility towards their children. Can you not get by without telling them anything? You can, and that is why God has said to die to the negativities of this world; God has said to live as if you are dead to this world. Whatever is ruined, can be improved. You do not have to cut off and abandon what is ruined. You should not try to improve what is ruined. Leave that task to me. I can improve whatever is ruined, but you should not try to do so. You should simply follow my instructions. Only the one who has improved himself can improve others. How can you improve others when you yourself have not yet improved?
Follow this specific instruction of mine, if you want to improve your children. Take a vow of silence for six months. Speak only when children ask you something but you should tell them you would appreciate it, if they did not ask you anything. For any negative thoughts that arise towards your children, immediately do pratikraman.
Remain Superficial In Relationships
You carry a baby for nine months and when the baby is born you have to help him or her walk and get around in the world. You should only do this when they are young,
