Life without Conflict

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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life without Conflict
life without Conflict
You have to improve yourself before you can improve others. How can you improve others without improving yourself? Therefore tend to your own garden first before you look at someone else's. If you look after your own garden, your harvest will be fruitful.
Do Not Meddle but Adjust
Nothing improves in this world through reproach. The person who rebukes merely inflates his own ego in thinking, "I really told him off!' But if you look deeper, his reproach did not have any effect on the person he told off. Brass will remain brass and bronze will remain bronze. If you keep beating brass, will you be able to prevent it from discoloring? No. Why is that? It is because one of the inherent properties of brass is its proneness to discoloration. So you should just remain quiet. Just because you do not like a particular scene in a movie, do you have the right to go and burn the screen? No, you have to observe that too. Is every scene going to be to your liking? Instead people get up on their seats and start shouting, "Hey! He will kill you, he will kill you'. As if they are so compassionate! All this is to be observed. Eat drink, watch and enjoy yourselves.
You Only Need To Improve Your Self
Questioner: Children defy their teachers, when will they improve?
Dadashri: The one who suffers is the one at fault. The fault is of the sufferer. The teachers and the gurus are the dim-witted fools and that is why their students are disrespectful and insolent towards them. The children are good but it is the teachers and parents who are brainless. Adults insist upon their old ways so naturally the young are bound to retaliate. Today parent's conduct is such that their children will be insolent. The conduct of adults has declined and that is why children act the way they do. If there is an ongoing positive change in a person's thoughts, speech and actions he can become the supreme Lord and if the changes are negative, he can become a demon.
People destroy everything by trying to improve others.
Worldly life means that which is ever changing. It is constantly changing but the older generation is stuck in their old ways. You should change with the times, if you do not, you will die suffering. You must adjust according to the times. I adjust with everyone, even with a thief. When I talk to a thief, he will realize my compassion. I do not tell a thief what he is doing is wrong because it is his viewpoint, whereas people in general will call him a liar, a cheater and all kinds of unworthy names. But these lawyers today, are they not cheaters and liars too? They defend and win bogus cases; are they not being deceitful too? You say a thief is deceitful but how can you trust a person who defends fraudulent cases? And how can you trust anyone who defends the actions of the lawyer? Despite this, does the life of a lawyer not go on? I never tell anybody that he or she is wrong. Each is correct from his viewpoint. But you can explain to them what the consequences of stealing will be.
When old people enter a home, they start meddling and ask all kinds of questions: 'Why do you need this big a TV? Why do you need a radio?' They should stop such foolish meddling and instead try to make friends with the youngsters. The world will continue to change; nothing remains the same. The youngsters are bound to get attracted to new things and there is an endless flow of new things. Things come and go but the elderly should not meddle with