Life without Conflict

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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the time. We fight with each other and yet we live together.
used to be differences of opinion between households, but today there are differences of opinions between people within a household. Everyone has a different understanding. There is no awareness of what is beneficial and what is harmful in life.
Untested Father and Untested Mother
This is not the way to live life. It is not considered a family life. If you ask our old ladies how to live life, they will tell you, 'Eat and drink in peace, why do you rush through your meals?' First you must ascertain vour necessities and then all the rest is unnecessary. You must also realize it is the unnecessary things that confuses people and makes them take sleeping pills.
Why do conflicts arise in a home? Should you not understand why conflicts arise everyday with your children? Your son talks back to you, you ask a doctor for some guidance. How can he help you when his own wife talks back to him?
We have all kinds of surveys. They have surveys on cotton, on cloves, on this, or that, but no one has done a survey of what is going on within all humans.
Does your fragrance come through at home? Questioner: What do you mean by fragrance?
Dadashri: Do you keep everyone happy at home? You do not have quarrels at home, do you?
People do not even know how to behave as responsible parents. A man excitedly calls out to his wife to come and see what their toddler is doing. "Come quickly and see how smart our boy has become! He stood on his tippy-toes and reached inside my coat pocket and took out some money. Isn't he clever?" The fool! The fool of all fools! Where does a fool like him come from? He has become a father! Is he is not ashamed of himself? Does he even understand what kind of encouragement his son is getting? The toddler watches all this and thinks he has done something great. Now is this something to be proud of? Should there not be some principles? Does it suit us to have our Indian values erode away in this manner? Should parents not have awareness of what kind of talks give the right encouragement to a child? These are all untested (unfit or uncertified) fathers and untested mothers. If a father is a radish and a mother a carrot, then tell me, what will their son turn out to be? Is there a likelihood of him becoming an apple?
Children Respond To Love
Questioner: They do occur, everyday.
Dadashri: What kind of a person are you? You cannot give peace to your wife or your children? You cannot even make yourself happy? If you want to attain liberation then I will have to reprimand you and if you want to acquire a life in the celestial world, I can show you another simple path, and in that, I will welcome you with respect. I have not forgotten the worldly language. In the days gone by, there
A father said something to his son, the son became agitated and so upset that he told his father 'You and I will never get along.' The father began to plead with his son and told him, 'I did not say anything wrong to you son, why are you getting so upset with me?' I told the father, 'Why are