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you trying to mend fences now? Why did you instigate him in the first place? You should never instigate anyone. These people are very sensitive and quick to react. Do not disturb them. Do not say a thing, just eat, drink and enjoy yourself.'
Questioner: Is it not a parent's duty to caution their children if they get on a wrong path?
Dadashri: It's like this, people can caution their children as parents, but do we have any real parents today?
Questioner: Whom do you consider a good parent? Dadashri: True parents will tell their son he is walking on the wrong path of life, and upon telling him, the son will stop his wrongdoings. That is the definition of true parents. Where can you find such love these days? Today's parents do not have love. The world can only be won through love. The love parents have for their children today is comparable to the love a gardener has for his rose bush. How can you call parents of today, parents? They are uncertified fathers and uncertified mothers! So what kind of a state will their children be in? One should be allowed to get married only after he or she has been tested and certified as a parent. When even the Government does not give you a job without a test and a certificate, how can you get married without a certificate? The responsibility of a parent is greater than that of the Prime Minister of India. It is a higher status than that of a Prime Minister.
Questioner: What is the definition of a certified father or mother?
Dadashri: Uncertified fathers and mothers are the ones whose children do not listen to them or obey their instructions;
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their children do not like them and they cause problems for them. Are parents today not uncertified?
Otherwise Remain Silent and Just Observe
A Sindhi gentleman asked me what he should do to improve his two sons. I told him, 'Why did you bring sons like them? Could you not have selected them? All the mangos look alike but we taste them before we buy them. If you bought two tasteless mangos, two sweet ones, two sour ones and two bad ones, how can you expect to have sweet mango juice? What is the point of fussing about it later? If you brought home a sour mango, to know it as sour, is Gnan. When you get a sour taste, observe that taste. You have to observe the prakruti (inherent nature). It is not under anyone's control. Every circumstance or an event is a natural creation. No one can interfere in it nor can anyone change it and it is vyavasthit.
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Questioner: Do children not improve through
Dadashri: They will never improve. Physical punishment improves nothing. Try hitting this machine. It will break. The children too, will break. They may appear intact on the outside, but they are broken from within. If you do not know how to give encouragement to others, then remain silent and just drink your tea quietly. Just watch everyone's faces. Observe the two mannequins fighting with each other; you simply have to observe them. You have no control over any of this. You are just the knower.
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Those who want to increase their ties to this worldly life may fight and do whatever they please, but to those who want liberation, I tell them to simply see what unfolds.
