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Questioner: But that is not possible for others, is it?
Dadashri: It is not possible, but that does not mean you carry out your project by hurting others. Should there not be some discipline to carry out your mission in a manner that causes the least hurt. I am not asking you to do the impossible.
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You Only Have To Have the Inner Intent
Questioner: If there is no such thing as suffering, then how can anyone feel hurt by our actions?
Dadashri: It is because that person does not have the right understanding. The suffering he experiences is because he believes he is suffering. If you were to slap me I would not be affected. If you were to slap anyone else, because he believes there is suffering in that, he would suffer. His wrong belief (I am Chandulal) remains.
You also have to look at things from the perspective of how you would feel if someone were to slap you. In all situations, keep in mind how you would feel if you were the one on the receiving end.
If you have borrowed ten thousand rupees from someone and your financial circumstances get worse, a thought may cross your mind, 'What is the big deal if I do not pay him back?' At that time you should ask yourself, 'How would I feel if someone borrowed money from me and did not pay me back?' You must maintain an intellect, which is impartial and just. Your awareness should be, 'I would feel very hurt if it were to happen to me, similarly he would feel hurt too and therefore I do want to pay him back. If your intention is such, you will be able to pay him
life without Conflict
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Questioner: The mind will say that this guy is a millionaire and what use is ten thousand for him anyway? He will not be adversely affected it if we do not return it.
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Dadashri: You may feel he will not be put in any difficulty but that is not the point. That millionaire counts his rupees when he has to spend it on his son. Have you ever seen money lying around in a millionaire's home? Money is as dear as life to everyone.
Our intention should be that no being in this world should be hurt through our mind, body, or speech.
Questioner: Is that not difficult for an ordinary person
to do?
Dadashri: I am not asking you to start behaving that way immediate. All I am telling you is that you need to have a firm inner intent that you do not want to hurt anyone. That inner intent is your firm determination.
[4] Family Organization
What Kind Of Life Is This?
Do you have the knowledge of family organization? In India we lack the knowledge of how to organize the family. In foreign countries they do not have the understanding of what it takes to maintain a family. In their culture when children turn twenty, the parents ask them to move out and live on their own, so that the 'love-bird parents' can live by themselves. They say it like it is. If the husband and wife do not get along, they will resort to a divorce. Where are such talks of divorce in our culture? We have to live together all
